"Find it out for yourself. You'll get a one-sided review from this end" Enlighted us dorkycrass. Don't make me pull out my copy and give out some passages. Do you deny that it heavily goes on about the "submission" and "subjection" that women must be in to their husbands? I repeat, to any egalitarian, it will be seen as incredibly sexist-a reflection of the organization. I wanted it to be untrue...I really did. But I was too much of an egalitarian myself and it hurt my conscience and made me depressed to be in a religion that treats women as second to men and teaches boys sexism...If it wasn't for that, perhaps I would still be in the religion, but it is clear it is a misogynist group.
Wedding Present: The Family Happiness book
by Nosferatu 58 Replies latest jw friends
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dorkycrass
jwbot: I believe it's a good book, if you want to give out some passages fine, I'll rebut.
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sens
It's Crap.
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BONEZZ
Keep it readily available in the bathroom for those times you might run out of Charmin.
-BONEZZ
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jwbot
Chapter 2:
"Similarly, a man who takes the success of his marriage seriously will seek a wife that he can love as his own flesh. She should complement him as a partner in establishing a home. (Genesis 2:18) Being a good homemaker is a demanding career of varied responsibilities. It calls for demonstrating talents as a cook, decorator, economist, mother, teacher, and much more. Her role can be creative and challenging, offering many opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment. A good wife, like a worthwhile husband, is a worker: ?She is watching over the goings on of her household, and the bread of laziness she does not eat.??Proverbs 31:27."
Chapter 4:
"The Bible assigns the husband to a position of headship in the marriage arrangement, saying: ?Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, because a husband is head of his wife as the Christ also is head of the congregation, he being a savior of this body. In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, so let wives also be to their husbands in everything.? (Ephesians 5:22-24) Will this arrangement really contribute to happiness in the household? Some women speak out against what they describe as male chauvinism, that is, a vainglorious or exaggerated view that some men have toward their position in relation to women. But let us say at the outset that the teachings of the Bible do not endorse such male chauvinism."
"If you set the example of submission to the headship of Christ, it will not be a difficult thing?in fact, it can be a pleasure?for your wife to have deep respect for your headship as her husband."
"Also, some wives complain that their husbands are domineering. Perhaps this has resulted from the wife?s attempts to usurp his headship, with his resisting such usurpation"
"On the other hand, instead of abusing headship, some husbands abdicate it. They pass all the decision-making over to their wives. Or, while telling the wife ?not to rush them,? they procrastinate so much that family interests suffer. They may not be lazy or idle physically, but if they shy away from mental effort the results can be the same as those described in Proverbs 24:33, 34: ??A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest,? and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.??Revised Standard Version."
"You will gain respect from your wife if you show yourself steady and strong and able to make decisions. But that does not mean that no one else in the household is to be consulted or that your wife?s opinion is not to be given serious consideration just because it does not happen to agree with yours"
"To live today, in many lands, it takes a great deal of money, and you as the husband must make the decisions that govern how this need will be met"
"Although in most cases it is the husband who brings in the money for the family?s support, it should not be forgotten that it is earned by a joint effort. If you, the husband, think you are doing this by yourself, then just stop and figure out what it would cost you to hire a purchasing agent, a cook, a dishwasher, a housekeeper, a decorator, a nursemaid, and so forth. "
While appreciating the areas in which your needs are alike, you also need to understand the psychological differences between the two of you if you are going to ?assign honor? to your wife. Basically, women like to work under a ceiling of authority, provided that it is exercised properly. This is the way Jehovah God created them. Woman was made to be ?a helper for the man, as a complement of him.?
"A woman psychologist wrote: ?Basically, women feel while men think.? "
Chapter 5 has a LOT but I will post one:
"24 Weeping and nagging are not wise. They are damaging to a marriage. They alienate a husband. The Bible warns against such practices, as in the following scriptures quoted from The New English Bible: ?He who harps on something breaks up friendship.? ?A nagging wife is like water dripping endlessly.? ?Better to live alone in the desert than with a nagging and ill-tempered wife.? ?Endless dripping on a rainy day?that is what a nagging wife is like. As well try to control the wind as to control her! As well try to pick up oil in one?s fingers!??Proverbs 17:9; 19:13; 21:19; 27:15, 16.
25 Why do the Scriptures single out the wife for this counsel? Probably because women are generally more emotional and more inclined to give vent to their feelings, especially when they are disturbed about something. Also, they may feel it is the only weapon they have. As head of the house a husband may arbitrarily have his way, so the wife may feel that she must resort to putting on emotional pressure. You, the wife, should not indulge in such tactics, and your husband should not make you feel forced to do so."
"30 Now her husband comes home, and he has some news to tell. As he enters the door, he starts out, ?You?ll never guess what happened at work . . .? He never gets any farther. She interrupts him with, ?How did you get that spot on your coat? Be careful where you walk. I just cleaned the floor.? He may hesitate to take up his story again.
31 Or, perhaps they are conversing with friends and he is relating an experience, but he leaves out some of the details or doesn?t get them all exactly right. His wife cuts in, first to correct the flaws, then to round out the story. Before long he takes a deep breath and says, ?Why don?t you tell it??" -
stillajwexelder
I can not believe someone having the audacity to give this crap as a wedding present to somebody -- I am lost for words
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Funchback
When I got married in June, 1992, a Bethelite from Brooklyn (John Love) gave me an my wife both a bible and songbook with our names engraved on them.
At the time, I told him that his gift was my favorite one.
Please pardon while I now puke...
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shotgun
It was given to me as well...Also the Bible story book when we had a child.....
I wish they would have given me The Finished Mystery when I was constipated
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Nosferatu
Wrong thread.. oops
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logansrun
The words "dried up shit stick" come to mind...
BRadley