This has really scared me, my husban WAS a witness b4 we met, then got disfellowshipped because of me and now wants to go back to it so he can see his parents. He assures me that it won't change my life at all and we can still have xmas, birthdays etc.
Your husband is lying through his teeth and he knows it.
If nothing were to change than why was he disfellowshipped because of you?
My wife said the same thing when she decided to "return to Jehovah" after we were married. But the subtle changes could not be ignored, books and momentos I'd collected that didn't fit in with her new spirituality secretly thrown away, activities we used to share in I now had to do by myself, the snide comments about what I viewed as harmless entertainment.
Look for your full-time husband to turn into a part-time roommate whose every decision and thought is strained through that latest of what the WT has to say. Look forward to spending at least two nights and two days a week alone while he engages in his new theocratic activities.
My personal feeling on the doctrines and beliefs are that the whole thing is beyond crap, I was raised an RC and whilst I do not practice I have an enquiring mind and do unfortunately have a rather large mouth.
Put that enquiring mind to work and gather as much factual supportable information on the WT blunders as you can for the inevitable avalanche of encouragement and efforts to "win you over". Whenever he pulls one of his WT polished guilt trips or flawed logic out of his well stocked bag, use the knowledge you have gained and that "rather large mouth" to blow him clean out the water and don't let up. He certainly won't.
Is my marriage as good as over??? I have told him that I won't stop him going but don't want ANYTHING to do with it, not even talk about it as I regard it as rather brainless.
My particular marriage didn't die because of this, but, after getting in myself, realizing that it was a bunch of bullSH**, and getting out two years later, it took quite a while for my wife and I to develope the ground rules by which she can continue to be a JW knowing my opposition to the WT, I can have my own activities and holidays with extended family, and we both be happy. It can work, but you both are gonna have to really work hard at it and not be influenced by the inevitable WT elder interference.
