Dear friends, please be careful! (page 2)

simplesally

Oh, so posting my phone number would be a bad idea? LOL

drwtsn32

Good reminder, onacruse!

she'd checked me out backwards and forwards, and exchanged e-mails with people that knew me personally.

But how did she know those other people were real and not just extra email accounts that you were monitoring?

I am known, here and there. Anyone who wants to know the basics about me may consult certain credible references, who will have only (well, mostly ...) good things to say about me. Even my exes will tell you that I am "not a bad person," as one of them told me to my face.

Personally, I've met the last four women with whom I've been involved via the Internet, and have no "horror stories" to tell. (I haven't particularly gone out of my way to do this; seemingly, it just happened.) As one of my friends, who met her fiance online, put it, "I think you get to know people from the inside out, online." That tends to be true, provided both parties are honest, but even so it's not a panacea. Humans experience misunderstandings and compatibility issues, and are sometimes clobbered by circumstances. However, where there's strong enough motivation - love, and other factors - usually a couple can find a way to keep their relationship safe and sound, and to get together in "real life."

Cruithne

simplesally

But on the internet, the people can tell you: yes, they pay their bills, yes they go to work. Time spent with that person, irl, will tell you how that person reacts to adverse situations, how neat and tidy is that person? Time will tell if that person can really hold down a job, seeing that persons real life friends will tell you a lot about them.

StinkyPantz

Doc-

Good point! The phone comes in handy if that is the case. If someone can verify things about this person, talk to others that know him on the phone, not just via PM/s and IM/s and email.

In addition, couldn't this to an extent be good advice for relationships that aren't intimate? I mean, I'm sorry but no one should just automatically believe stuff they are told about others, especially online. Be as trusting as possible, but be cautious as well. People are not always what they seem. Always protect yourself and your own.

jgnat

Good point, xjw. I guess there is no substitute for common sense.

bikerchic

awwwwwww honey!

What can I say cept *warning long winded post*.......

And, whatever we post here: a snippet on this post, a little detail on that post, and all of a sudden we look back and see that we've given away much more than we thought!
Not to be paranoid! But...
Please be careful.

So what Craig is trying to do here is really warn yous people, using us as an example I gotta tell ya I did check him out every which way I knew how to.........anyone who knows Craig knows WYSIWYG I read everyone of his post looking for anything that looked outa character and the more I looked the more I realized what an honest, caring man he is............and I wanted to get to know him better unbeknownst to him. Poor guy didn't stand a chance! We were also in chat every night with a group of people so I saw how he acted there as well. Several people from this board remember us in chat, they always told us to "get a room!" So we did our own little room on ICQ, the rest is history.

jgnat:

For more on Bikerchic and Onacruse's online romance, check out the links below (copied from my Newbies introduction thread)
Bikerchic, dare I mention what your most famous contribution to the board is? Oops! Too late.

Thanks I'm bookmarking that one it really made me smile..........brought back so many wonderful memories! Yeah my most famous contribution to the board is onacruse, er meeting onacruse.\