Of Posting, Children and Other Things (page 2)

expatbrit

I think the real lesson here that we all must consider deeply and take to heart is that people should drink more tea. It is a civilising influence par excellence.

Expatbrit

Hi Chris! I'm glad you're hereand you KNOW that. Might I give an opinion regarding children and this board? I do not think the two should mix. We have wonderful rules of conduct to go by on this board. Unfortunately, at times, people do not follow them. It is a shame. I've seen some bothersome and shocking statements and words used here, even after repeated requests to refrain from expressing them. Eventually, some posters are deleted or restricted in some certain way and that is good! But, children should not be allowed access to some that might not care about them. I see a problem with evil intentioned persons knowing that they can communicate with kids. It worries me that they might get some access to the younger ones. I know some kids are very mature for their age. But they are still children. They may play with dolls or GI Joes, still. The POTENTIAL for problems with children posting is a reality. I am concerned that an unprincipled person might gain the trust of an innocent child and do something or say something hurtful.......I hope Jennie is OK! .....She has WONDERFUL parents. God bless you, all.

cruzanheart

Jennie's fine, minimus. She didn't read the post -- we just told her what had happened without repeating anything potentially hurtful. She was cool with it and, I think, kind of flattered that so many people were that concerned about her. Thanks, y'all!

Love,

Nina

Xena

mini I believe Big Tex & cruzan allow their daughter to participate in the same manner I allow mine....very strictly supervised. She doesn't read any threads prior to my reading them first to see what they contain...and any and all communication she has with other posters or their children is filtered thru me or her dad.

Our children are interested in this site because it is a part of their parents lives...we interact with people from here...we have friends on here..we travel thousands of miles to meet people from here..and some of the issues discussed here such as shunning pertain to them also.

The comments that were made to Jennie shouldn't have been made to anyone...be they 9 or 99...when you post to someone like that, especially someone you obviously know nothing about...not their age..or their circumstances...then you take the change that you are inflicting deep pain on someone who cannot handle it...and is that really a chance any of us would want to take????

Inquiry

Hey BT...

You're a gem of a man. Nice to see your brand of sincerity on the board, along with so many others here. It warms me very heart.

I had no problem with the way you handled the situation. You defended your daughter, plain and straight. Some of us need a good wake up call once in a while lest we become complacent in our own attitudes... and IMHO, you provided a very good one.

Thank you

Just to note Lady Lee's and Simon's ideas... both I think are very good ones... I like the parental moderator tools too. if I had a young one (mine is now a young man of 18 and can handle his own now) I would most definately appreciate that...I can tell you that having raised a son on my own, finding that kind of outlet for them, especially as they are very tactile with technology now, is very rare. I tried several online sites for children (been online for some time ) and good ones are very hard to find. I enjoy seeing the young express themselves... they are quite guileless, very charming and I love their innocent brilliance... but that's me... I'm a Mom....

Inq

morty

wow Big Tex,

what a man...your a man that wears his heart on his sleeve...for good reason....

I'm glad you decided to have tea first.....

mortons68

Country_Woman

Big Tex,
I did read Jenny's topic and your's defending your daughter and I think you are NOT over reacting.

Your decision not allowing Jenny on this forum anymore is fully understood - the forum is a bit to "mature" for her.
I am only afraid that she, now she has 'tasted' she wants more, even with the few unpleasant reply's.
She seems to me pretty smart for her age.
When Lady Lee start a Kid's Forum, that would be the solution.

Give her a hug from me and I hope to be still on the board when she is old enough to come back here.

Regards, Branda

cruzanheart

Thanks, Xena -- I tried to make that point on another thread too. The words were inappropriate at ANY age, not just because they were said to a child. Isn't this forum supposed to be a place where can heal with our words? A place where we can have productive discussions? I'm 47 and I realize that every time I post I could be flamed by someone, and I'm willing to take that chance (most of the time) but we have to remember that some people are very hurt by their JW experience when they come here and they're looking for people like themselves to talk to, not put-downs or harsh criticism.

Nina

minimus

Nina, that's my point. It really doesn't matter how things are SUPPOSED to be, this board cannot control what a poster has written. The mods can delete it if they catch it but that could concievably take some time and the damage can be done. We're adults here. Yet some act childish. Some hurt people's feelings---knowingly or unknowingly. Children should not be exposed to being hurt, ridiculed or verbally being beaten up. This place is too tough for kids, in my humble opinion.

Lady Lee

Nina and xena check your PMs

If you are a parent with a child who could use an outlet I have the forum set up. Parents please email me at [email protected] to get the URL and gain access

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