by ozziepost 14 Replies latest jw friends
Number 9. Why did you leave?
Like Simon, I'd probably give them a hug if they seemed open to it.
Then I'd invite them out for dinner or coffee to chat about the insanity of it all. If I had a designated driver we might even have a couple of glasses of a good wine.I've never met an exjw in person. I'd love to though.
Heather.
"Welcome! Congratulations, you're evil now. Isn't it FUN??"
#9 "Why did you leave" is an excellent conversation-starter with any other ex-dub. Usually conversation flows freely from that point, unless the other person jumped into another fundy religion and wants to share another version of "good news".
Goodonya, Ozzie. Good question.
Modified American Plan:
Hug.
Offer suitable alcoholic beverage (I dislike beeuh. ).
"Why'd you leave?" Then,
"Ain't life grand?"
out
You know, when I would get together with JWs that I met from online discussion boards, we did NOT talk about "how we got the truth". We just hugged and then talked about normal things. Went to my house or out to eat. We did some fun stuff. We got together with some XJW's and we talked about the "truth" .... now although the people were nice, talking about that made me uncomfortable. I would not want to do that again. If I went to a get together, I think that for the most part I would just want to do whatever the planned activity was or talk about my life NOW. I want to move on. If I am talking about being an XJW 20 years from now, I think I should be talking to a shrink as well. Talking about it in passing is one thing, but I hope the overall conversations I would have with other XJW's would revolve around movies, tv, the weather, a holiday, my child, their child, work, sports, real life!
Actually, my friend sns and her bf came over for Halloween and spent the night. I don't think we mentioned JWs except for the fact that she wants to move before xmas so she can have a tree and won't get reported by the JW neighbors. And we have tons to talk about all the time.
