Anger!

by Aztec 43 Replies latest jw friends

  • xenawarrior
    xenawarrior

    It makes me angry when people pretend to be so sweet on one board and then go to another one and gleefully trash another person. Then, when feeling the heat from that abhorrent behavior make a martyr of themselves by posting something that will elicit great passion in others and create "bad guys" so they can be the "victim" to garner some positive attention and steer the negative attention away from their own shitty actions and behavior. When they are then "soooo hurt" and lament about how poorly they are being treated on the board when they are guilty of worse themselves on other boards but hope no one will see it because it's not posted in the realm where they are trying to create this "poor me" image for themselves.

    And then contradict it all by saying they are sooo strong. And it makes me angry when someone throws all of that truly nasty behavior towards others in public without remorse or apology and try to sweep it all under the rug and justify it by throwing the "oops, I was angry" blanket on top of it. Like ?oops, I broke a nail?

    And it makes me angry when someone tells others that they take things too hard and that they "should have thicker skin" but when it's them they cry "foul" and run crying to the moderators. And then they post that they need to go away and then go only as far away as another board and then *poof* they are back the next day or so to receive the "I am so glad you are back" posts.

  • Aztec
    Aztec

    Okay XW.

    ~Aztec

  • Mac
    Mac

    It makes me angry when someone uses the term someone to identify someone but, uses the fact that they didn't use their name to get their point across to use in future defense of how they never mentioned someone cuz someone was irritating their ass.

    mac , not realy angry but, quite amused at people who scold people on another board they frequent for bitching about this board and then come to this board and bitch about someone bitching on yet another board!

    But hey, it makes for interesting reading for SOMEONE,......right????

    (and from now on I shall be known only as someone so as never to be left out again)

  • Flowerpetal
    Flowerpetal

    I'm angry at myself for not heeding the warning signs and call off my wedding in 1970, because of the position the WTB&TS took about letting your "yes" mean "yes" and your "no" mean "no" once you are engaged. That the congregation should expect you to get married.

  • lovinlife
    lovinlife

    I was angry that my parents raised me to be a submissive wimp.

    I was angry that being a submissive wimp lead me to marry an abusive a**hole.

    I was angry that I turned to the congregation for help...and they didn't.

    I was angry that they implied it was all my fault. I wasn't submissive enough. (oh yeah, I forgot, I love to be beaten by my elder husband!)

    I was angry that I became a non-entity for 1/3 of my life.

    I was angry that my daughter was ingrained with her father's abusive personality-by him.

    Now I am just angry that I wasted all that time being angry!!!

  • avishai
    avishai
    I'm angry I moved from place to place every year until I was 9.

    I'm angry I never made many friends

    I'm angry I wasn't able to keep the ones I made for want of moving

    Yep. Never lived in the same house for over a year, year and a half or went to the same school for over a year til i was 18!!!!! It sucks!!!!

  • Aztec
    Aztec

    ((lovinlife))

    ~Aztec

  • Gretchen956
    Gretchen956

    Azzie, there is hope. Anger is not a bad thing, its a very healing part of the grief cycle. I was once a very angry person. I took it out on people that I considered stupid, I really had a lot of road rage, I hated my parents for abusing us when we were young (not sexual abuse), I was pissed off for being so deluded by the wts for so many years that I denied my sexuality and wasted years of my life. I know there were other reasons.

    As long as you don't get stuck in that anger and become a professional victim, you can use it to move on. Sometimes that does take therapy. You have to learn to love yourself. You have to really believe that you did nothing wrong, you were the victim. You have to learn to hope and to dream and to live and to trust. And those things are possible.

    It took me many years to quit being angry at my parents. But I finally "got it." They were ignorant people (as in uneducated), they were/are superstitious, and they were part of a cult that held them captive in that ignorance. Both my parents were also abused by their parents. In my mom's case it was sexual abuse by her father and her brother both. So do I hate them now? No, I truly feel sorry for them. I know that they live in intense fear every day that their children out of the borg are going to die horrible deaths in armeggedon. They live every day in that fear. That is much to be pitied.

    So, you finally gain some perspective about life and situations. Personally I have a strong belief in karma. Some of you might call that by another name. It really just means to me that evil people generally end up getting what they deserve.

    And here's a part of it that really helps me. Helping others. Did you ever see the movie "Pay it Forward"? I know this sounds really cheesy, but it really does make a difference. Because giving without any expectation of return can really help your self-esteem. Not to mention I believe these things usually come back three-fold.

    Anyway, AZ, best wishes to you and to the others who have expressed their angers due to things that have happened in their life.

    Gretchen

  • SheilaM
    SheilaM

    I am hurt about losing my Mother and my dogs.

    I am crushed that my daughter miscarried

    I hurt and miss my son terribly

    I am pissed off that my siblings chose to take everything of my Mother's from my step-Dad's home (including things I had bought my Mom)

    I

    <written in sixism's>

  • Enishi
    Enishi

    I'm angry for not having made more 'wordly' friends in high school, for not having been able to devout myself to education earlier, for having to feel like my hobbies and interests were wrong, and for believing I was somehow better than everyone who wasn't a dub.

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