Most of the time I don't even think of it. But yesterday I wrote and checque and the date reminded me of what today is.
Years ago she married an unbeliever. When he tried to be nice and bought her flowers for her b-day she yelled at him and threw them in the garbage.
So... I won't be calling her just to get yelled at.
Funny thing is though that when I was a JW she would call me on my birthday (and that of the girls) to wish us happy birthday. No gifts or anything - just a "thinking of you" kind of call.
This is the woman who
- beat me as a child
- locked her kids in a room and tied her kids to a bed so she could sleep late
- used a scrub brush for the floors to wash our feet and necks
- left me alone with abusers (5 different ones)
- left me with my father when she ran away because of his abuse
- sent me to foster care when her common-law-husband was sexually abusing me
- used me as caretaker for her kids
- used me as her confidante and care-taker instead of taking to other adults
- married me off to the first man she could arrange it with
- took my support when she committed adultery and I didn't shun her
- but shuns me after I left
- ignores her grandchildren
- only came to see her great-granddaughter after the worldly people she was working with started nagging her to go see the baby (they couldn't understand how she would not see her first great grandchild for 3 months)
- left her dying non-JW husband and forced him to sell his home that he had before she met him leaving him homeless and sick
Actually I think I will be relieved when she is gone
How many of you think about your JW parents on their birthday?