Taking stock of my blessings....

Dawn

I've been DF'd for a number of years, and up until recently have been able to maintain a fairly close relationship with my parents. Dad passed away a few years back and since then I have tried to keep my mom busy so she wouldn't be alone - phone calls, shopping, dinner, etc - and I took care of things around her house for her. Well now Mom has decided that she needs to follow the WT rules and cut the "socializing" with me - of course, it's "acceptable" for me to still go take care of her when she needs it

WHATEVER!

I have been heartbroken this past week. But I realize now that perhaps this is a good thing in that it forced me to sit back and take stock of what I DO have. So - just to make myself feel better I thought I'd put it all down in writing:

* A wonderfully supportive and fun husband

* Beautiful healthy children

* Terrific in-laws that welcome me into their family

* Freedom to learn what I want to learn, be who I want to be, and live!

* Holidays - hey, it is that time of year! And they can be so much fun.

I guess all in all, I have a really good life. And although I am heart broken - it will mend, in the interim my family and friends will be there to help me through.

blondie

I love your way of thinking, Dawn!

Blondie

franklin J

Dawn,

I admire your good positive attitude . I try to do the same; although at times ( JW or not) it can be a challenge. The lifestyle you describe is similar to mine; and that means you are always busy. This is good. And the children make it all worthwhile.

Your mother will come around when she sees how positive your life is. It takes time.

hang in there,

Frank

morty

You have such a positive out look on life....keep it up...you will be the better person in the end.....In the mean time, I hope your heart will mend quickly....Hopefully your mom will see pass thier rules and regulations and welcome you back shortly.....((((((((DAWN)))))))))

morts

Dawn

Thanks to each of you for your support! I have a choice to make - I can be happy or I can be sad, and I choose to be happy. But then again, I have a lot going for me in my life so the choice is easier to make. It is so much harder for others here who do not have the kind of support system I have.

As for my mom, she is all alone now - I was the only family she had here. When I'm out doing things with my family and friends my heart aches for her being alone and lonely - then I remind myself that it is only by her choice - then I feel a little better, but to be truthful I still feel bad that she is alone. Silly isn't it?!

franklin J

yes, Dawn, it is silly

the bottom line is that this is her choice,not yours. That religion does strange things to people. Hopefully time will help HER to see what she is doing.

hang in there and keep smiling, your kids need to see that

Frank

Greenpalmtreestillmine

Dawn what a beautiful outlook!

In my life peace is finally taking hold and I wish peace for you and your family also. Our friends and relatives in the Organization do not really have peace. They're working to have life in the new system and that work brings much more anxiety than peace.

By living my life in peace and contentment I feel I am making a lie of what the Society says about those who have become inactive or have left. There is peace outside of the Organization, there is peace, happiness, contentment and above all peace with God also.

Your Mom is only doing what she is told to do not what she really wants to do I am sure. I hope she sees through the wrongness of what the Watchtower is telling her very soon.

Sabrina

Sassy

Dawn, I really respect the way you are handling something that could very well have been a huge cloud over you. We all know the pain of losing a family member and yet you are so right, that taking stock in those positive things you do have, gives us joy. May all your days give you strength to keep focusing on the positive, thus keeping those clouds off your horizen.

Guest 77

I love to hear such news! Your doing your duty.

Guest 77

lovinlife

It so good that you have such a good outlook. It is a blessing that you will still be able to help her though. My parents informed me that I am not welcome in their house. When I drop off my daughter for a visit, I don't even get out of the car. They even refused to be at our (worldly) family reunion if I was there. So at least you can feel good that you can still be there for your mom and have the opportunity to show her your love.

Taking stock of my blessings....

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