Ozzie's Weekend Poll #72

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G'day all,

How's the weekend going? Here in NSW we've gone from warm to sizzling heat to storms to gale force winds to "get the blankets on the bed" weather. All in one weekend! Streuth! Seriously, Saturday afternoon was in the low 40s in some parts....that's celsius for you north americans! Wow, what a time we've been having! Other than that, you'll be glad to know that Mrs Ozzie's resting well right now, so all's well!

So, what shall we reminisce about this weekend? Well, settle back with a nice cuppa, or even better a glass or two of (Australian) shiraz and think back on this one:

What did you do to photos of DF persons?

1. Cut out their faces.

2. Cut them in half and display the "good" half.

3. Frame them!

4. Burn them.

5. Save them for a rainy day.

6. Ask, Why?

7. Pretend they didn't exist.

8. Return them to the DFee.

9. Take them out of the album but keep them in a box.

10. Other (please detail)

So, once again (is it really #72?) we're looking forward to your responses.

Enjoy.

Cheers, Ozzie Cheers 2

shamus

When I was a dub I would have taken them down.... but not throw them out! If they were my kids I would leave them up.

Scully

Nothing changed. I always hoped they'd come back to The Truth?.

Besides, I knew already what it felt like to have your existence denied that way. One of my grandmothers was so upset about our family converting to JWs that she stopped displaying our photographs, while our cousins' photographs were everywhere in their home. I couldn't imagine being so hurtful to anyone.

Love, Scully

blondie

When I was an active JW, I took down the pictures of my active JW family who had abused and were abusing me.

As to DF'd people, I always kept their pictures up unless they were a murderer or a child abuser.

Does anyone remember the days when an unbaptized person was "disassociated" the equivalent of a baptized person being DF'd? Well, I knew someone like that and spent time with them anyway. No one bothered me because I always reasoned with them that they weren't a JW so how could they take any action against them. The Israelites didn't go around excuiting Gentiles who committed adultery.

I can see people storing a DF'd person's pictures away out of public sight. I can see it causing them real heart pain even if misguided. I can see them taking out the pictures privately and looking at them and remembering them with love. I knew a sister who kept the pics of her son and daughter in her wallet. So not everyone is out there with hate in their heart, maybe hurt and fear of the elders.

I always wonder how well some families got along while in the organizationn and if DF'ing is just an excuse to hurt each other in a new way.

Blondie

Mulan

When my second son was df'd, I took down most of his pictures. It really hurt to see them. He had left home and "the truth"...............very painful.

Joyzabel

there was a photo of some of my kids with their friends. Well, after several years, I cut out the pics of people that I didn't want to see anymore (daughter's xboyfriend, df'd girl) So yes, I'm guilty of cutting away an offensive <gasp> person in my past. But not now. I'll just cut out those I don't want to have in my picture album anymore.

j2bf

Gozz

When a not-so-close 'friend' was DF years ago, his pictures remained where they were; nothing changed; sought him out to have a word with him...

CountryGuy

The only DF'd person I knew of growing up was my mother's best friend. My mother had kept her pictures in the photo albums, but we knew never to ask about her.

Country

ESTEE

10. Other (please detail)

I'm pleased ... and maybe a little surprised to say that I kept the picture of my disfellowshipped mother on display. Of course I hoped she would return to the fold. And eventually she did....

Then I left...hehehe!!!

ESTEE

FlyingHighNow

10. Other

I kept them where ever I had them. I always felt love and empathy and puzzlement over dfings. I tried to give the person a loving smile or a note after their announcement. I wanted them to know that at least one person at the hall loved them very dearly no matter what.

Heather

Ozzie's Weekend Poll #72

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