Welcome to the board, Appollyn.
Sit back, relax, enjoy yourself here. More will understand than you realize.
Hugs,
j2bf
Newbie! My saga
by appollyn 18 Replies latest jw friends
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lisavegas420
Hi and welcome, neighbor.
Lisa<-----next village over
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Billygoat
Appollyn,
Welcome to the board! I was overwhelmed with the amount of support when I first started here over two years ago! Since then I've begun healing like crazy, making new friends, and moving on. Your story is all too familiar to hundreds of us here. Stick around and hopefully you'll experience what I've experienced!
Love,
Andi
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shotgun
Welcome Appollyn you already have a brilliant relative on the board or alter ego named Abaddon also from Revelation.
Thanks for the personal history.
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morty
WELCOME APPOLLYN....
THANKS FOR SHAREING YOUR STIRY.....IT SOUNDS ALL TO MUCH THE SAME AS OTHERS I KNOW...
PULL UP A CHAIR AND STAY A WHILE...ENJOY YOUR JOURNEY HERE....
MORTY
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rocketman
Welcome!
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Sentinel
Glad you found this place. You are not unlike many posters on here--a familiar story of things hoped for and lost, and living in a sort of "limbo".
I see great potential for you, even though you probably feel kinda "stuck" right now. Most people do seem to get their credit card balance way up there, and paying the minimum each month doesn't help. Getting a good control over debt is first and that just takes some budgeting and some self control. Second, you have those kids, and I know they love their daddy and they are the light of your life. Spend time with them and teach them well, because they won't be little for very long. These days it seems that kids are so "smart" by age nine, that it is hard for parents to believe. It's like they change overnight. Suddenly "they" know everything, and their parents "know nothing". Lighten your load as much as possible.
Even though I don't know what has caused your marriage to go stale, and as you said, there is much more to your personal story, I do know that if both of you work on it, you can make it if you want to. I have to tell you that with the child support laws the way they are, you might as well stick it out and make the best of it, because until they are 21, or even through with college, you have that responsibility. Hopefully, your wife is sharing in helping you to bring it all together. Take some time, no matter how little and try to recapture the initial love you felt when you married. Love does change, but it doesn't have to die. But, it does take two to do this. If it is one-sided, the foundation will topple because of the unequal distribution of responsibility and commitment to succeeding. It's the love, commitment and compassion that will see you through this. You can only do the best that you can do.
The best decision you ever made for yourselves was to leave the WTS behind. The rest is probably going to be a "piece of cake" when you look back on all of this in another few years. My bet is that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Check out the many threads here and I'm certain you will find some new friends that you can connect with. I wish you the best!
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Yesterdays Child
WELCOME JUST UP THE ROAD A PIECE IN CLEVELAND :}
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ESTEE
Welcome to the board Appollyn!!!
I've been disfellowshipped since 1999 ... never looked back ...
ESTEE