Hello Lost Diamond!
You come across as if you have some ill feelings toward her, hurt, or at least some internalized anger (e.i. calling her a bitch).
This is true. I don't think anyone can't have some negative feelings after spend 4 years with someone, money on an engagement ring, going into debt with them, and making investments in a future together, then having the other person exit their life without no decent explanation. I got over the relationship, but the struggle to get back up was a long, difficult one.
Trust me, if you lived with her, you'd call her a bitch too ;)
Why are you happy that you "put a curse on your ex-fiance"?
This "curse" I put on her had completely escaped my mind until last night. All she needs to do is throw the video out, or tape over it, and she's free from the "thoughtfulness" of that gift. I've gone through my pictures and such, and have eliminated almost all of my past with her. If I really put my mind to it, some of my posessions can remind me of my life with her, but I've gotten over that a long time ago. I couldn't help but laugh when I remembered that I planted that video in the box. It never occured to me since then that it would still be having an impact on her life.
You would feel a lot better and would move forward so much easier and with much more gratification if you could let go of that hurt.
"Hurt" is an emotion, much like any positive feelings (love) one can have for a person. Feelings cannot be taken and put to rest. Time makes them fade, but the stain will remain forever.