My crazy experience, from pioneer to jail bird

Nodoubter

First let me introduce my self, I am a 33yo male show spent much of his youth in the JW cult, I was not raised into the truth however thought I found it at the age of 11 when a well caring brother knocked my door, I had no father figure so this brother was everything to me, like a father, I quickly began attending meetings even when my mom used to oppose, I was taken like an example kid because I was an "orphan" in the spiritual sense, I got baptized when I was 12, and spent the rest of my teenage years being this good kid everyone thought I was, I hated that attention and pressure however it felt good to be doing good things, when I was about to finish High School I started to get into Punk and ska music, I used to listen to it in secret, one time an elder found out and went to my house when I wasnt there, he went into my room and took all my cds, this was my first time I felt like I was being invaded of my privacy, I was made to feel guilty for liking this music and lost all my priviledges..theres a lot more I can say but I will stick to the main points, I became a reg pioneer, I became an MS, the whole thing, living in New York allowed me to visit Bethel many times and had many many friends there, at the head quarters and Walkill, In my cong we had Bethelite elders etc, so yeah I was "in the club" , I always had a doubt in the back of my mind if what I was doing was the right thing, I used to rent the basement out of en elders house, he is what made me turn, he was the mos unloving person I ever met, for instance he would turn off the heat during snow storms, sometimes due to my pioneering I had no food and he knew this, well no food from him etc. yet all this time I thought I was doing the right thing, eventually I feel in love and started dating this beautiful pioneer girl, daughter of pioneer parents as well, I never felt fully excepted because of my spiritual Orphan status and no family in the truth, eventually got to a point where I could not communicate with her and her parents used to pick up the calls, they told me I could not continue to pursue a relationship with her, I was devastated! long story short I wanted to see her etc, they put a restraining order and labeled me a stalker, made a mistake of sending her an e-mail and well, that got me arrested!! I am in no way a creep nor a stalker but I was made to be seen that way! NO ELDER NO ONE came to my rescue nor did they ever question me, i was just simply sent a short note not even a letter, they didnt even call me a brother in it but a sir. In it they told me that I was no longer part of the congregation, I had no one to bail me out, when I eventually came out well, I looked for the elders and the Bethelite one told me over the phone that because the law was involved that I had to be removed because I made the cong look bad. Now because of having a restraining order I could not even go back to meetings, I could not even picture my life without being a JW, so I stoped going to meetings and began to open my eyes, I began to remember many things that I had just simply closed my eyes to, fsat foward to now, I see the truth about the truth, all these people that were my friends for almost 2 decades are out there, they see me and I am an invisible ghost it seems, I am so sad for them still being brainwashed, I have many friends and finally began my own business where I am very successful at, There is much much more than what I just said, but I went trough so many depressing times, I was by myself in the worst of times, it was there I realized that this can not be Gods organization, i did NOTHING wrong!, please give your self a favor and leave this organization, they ruined my life but I found the strength and wisdom to go on without them,and now I am so much better for it. would love to hear from you guys, I could use your pov and support and new friends, I will answer any questions.

zeb

condolences.

Once again all they are worried about in the case of her parents is the status of the would be son in law and elders protecting the "image" of the cong/society.

As others have said the greatest response is to be seen living a normal successful life.. think of the time you now have!

Daniel1555

Welcome no doubter.

How good it is to be out of this org and not having doubts about that.

I wish you a lot of joy and happiness in your way of life and looking forward to read more of your posts.

Listener

Hi Nodoubter, welcome to the forum.
It's a pity that your mother couldn't stop you from attending meetings, you were very young to be attending without your parents.
Thanks for sharing your story.

John Free

A warm welcome to the forum. Interesting account you have. Glad you are on the road to recovery.

brandnew

In the club 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 dude cmon...never chase the chick............let her chase you😈😈

Oh dang!! Now all the chicks here are gonna be mad at me for sayin that......shewt.

Mad Puppy

NeverKnew

Hmpf.... and a few posts ago, I wondered if you were hot, Brandnew. You can forget it now! *giggling*

Welcome NoDoubter! I'm a non-JW who has to swallow chunks of vomit when friends and family talk about everyone being on the same level from Governing Body members on down. "You see," they say, "the churches have all those men with titles and we don't!"

Oh, if they only knew how much I know. Jeez

LisaRose

Welcome. I am sorry you were treated so poorly. Sadly this is not that uncommon in "God's loving organization". Although I'm sure this was very painful, at least it allowed you to break free.

Lisa 🌹

steve2

The club of individuals badly treated by the organization is a rapidly growing one. Welcome. Take it nice and easy and allow your distress to settle down. You will find so many people here will not only understand you but also identify with your experience. By your account, it certainly looks like you did nothing wrong. I am so sorry for what you went through with no support from people who could have given you a helping hand.

AudeSapere

The JW elders claim 'clergy' when it suits them. However, in most bonafide religions that I know of, the 'clergy' visit and give consolation and encouragement and refuge to the 'wayward' members.

JWs have a horrible reputation for kicking and abusing their members just when they need an understanding confidant the most.

I'm sorry you had to learn that the hard way.

Welcome to JWN~! I look forward to hearing more of your story as it unfolds.

-AudeSapere. (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself.)

My crazy experience, from pioneer to jail bird

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