Does school bullying count? The worst school bully I ever had at age 10, was a new 13-yr old who's family had moved into our Congregation from another state. He put on the "perfect angel" front at the Kingdumb Hell, but at school was so bad he'd make the "worldly" kids blush! He was also totally resentful that I was a "good" JW kid. Did I mention he (at age 13) was in my (age 10) 4th grade class? He was NOT dumb. He was just that far behind from moving around probably.
He hated that I was good, and made my life hell by beating the shit out of me, getting the other school bullies to join in, etc. It was so bad my parents took photos of my bruises as evidence, held meetings at the school (useless!) and finally, made a meeting with his parents at our Kingdumb Hell.
My naive, 10-yr old self thought, "Finally! Jehovah will intervene and help me."
So we get to the KH one Saturday for this "meeting of families." Did I mention that even though I attended this KH my entire life, my father was just a "regular JW", and this bully's dad was an MS? So.....yeah. Anyway, all I remember from this "meeting" was that basically it was said that "....well, HE must be doing SOMETHING to provoke our son to hit him like that." Basically, I was victim-blamed/shamed for my own beatings at school. Then, Choir-boy was made to give some phony apology, and then I was FORCED to not only forgive my abuser, but HUG HIM in the back room. I had tears in my eyes, but only because I was so mentally anguished from this injustice that I couldn't believe what was happening. This sick fuck not only got away with this abuse, I was forced to forgive and HUG HIM. Talk about enabling bad behavior!
My father, being a Vietnam Vet, I was told later did tell this boy's father about the photos he had of my bruises, and that if it didn't stop immediately, he'd be going to the police. However, it was the end of the school year and I was done having to see this sick fuck anyway. By chance, we never shared any more classes together and they moved again a year later. Gee, I wonder why? Abusive POS! Did I mention the stress of that year of bullying, led to me developing an eating disorder wherein I got so thin my mother (an RN!) threatened to take me to the hospital if I didn't start eating? Fun times!
Several years later, I was attending the Memorial at another Congregation. I was in the bathroom stall before it started, when who should walk in but this bully and his buddies. This was 6 years later, so he'd be 19. What was the topic of discussion between him and his buddies? Why, openly talking about which sister's pussy that'd like to hit. No lie.....very vulgar language, at THE MEMORIAL. They didn't know I was in the stall. I was floored. Same POS, just older now.
Up until age 10, I was a born-in, true-blue believing little JW. I prayed regularly, believed God would help and protect me, believed it ALL. After this year of HELL, I was basically "woke up." I saw that my so-called "worldly" classmates were my REAL friends, and the JW's were a toxic group of users and abusers, and they'd say and do anything to cover their own asses, and GOD wasn't going to step in and stop jack-shit! In essence, I had my huge Red Flag moment (first of many) and by age 16 I was pretty much done. After age 10 I didn't go in FS, I didn't ever raise my hand or participate, never joined the school.
I was guilted by my parents to study the Greatest Man book at age 13 with a trusted family friend and Elduh, who also was one of the 144,000. Basically a local celebrity. He had a large family. I studied the book with him (alone in my home),but never progressed to baptism. (I was too smart for that) I found out 20 years later, that this respected Elduh had raped his sisters growing up, and had also molested most (if not all) of his children. When the wife found out, she promptly divorced him, but no one knew why and she was DF'd and made out to be a Jezebel! The Elduh? Well, he was never reported to the police, and was also shuffled away to another Congregation where's he's not only in good standing, no one knows a damn thing about him. He's never seen a jail cell, unlike his one son who was convicted several times of possessing child pornography and is in the State Penn for 25+ years.
So yeah......this "Organization" is a toxic, abusive, victim-shaming, pedo-protecting CULT.
Fuck these gaslighting pieces of shit and them putting their hands on you.
