On this Fathers Day...

by babygirl30 16 Replies latest jw friends

  • babygirl30
    babygirl30

    I have never really spoken on social media about my JW family shunning me. I didnt even discuss or answer any questions about why they didnt come to my wedding, my birthday parties, why there are never any pics of them with me/us together. Until TODAY...

    TODAY I woke up and had this insane desire to be open. To tell people the truth about it all and to put it out there why on Fathers Day 2018, my father isnt in my life. Below is what I wrote...and let me say that although I have been crying most of today reading and re-reading my post. It is the the support I have gotten from everyone OUTSIDE my immediate family that resonates with me - through and through. Just wanted to show that I'm proud of my damn self today! #yayme

  • mentalclarity
    mentalclarity

    That was bold😀 this treatment is awful.

    None of my family came to my wedding either. I know what it's like to try to explain why to incredulous inlaws who were too kind to delve further. I hope you feel better.

  • FreeFallin
    FreeFallin

    Babygirl30

    So sorry for your heartache. This should make a lot of people start questioning your parent's actions.

  • Perry
    Perry

    My wife and I were at a school fund raiser recently and the speaker was a well-know politician. He told a story how his father took him to an event once were the state governor was. His dad told him to take a good look at the governor because this would be likely the closest he would ever get to any governor.

    His dad also taught him to work hard, value his family and told him not to look too far up the family tree because he wouldn't like what he saw. When he became a teenager, of course he did just that. His father was right, he didn't like what he saw.

    He went on to become a US Governor himself. He said he appreciated how his dad started a new family tree, in spite of what he was given to start with.

    My wife saw me a little down today, and brought this event up. She told me that sometimes you just have to cut the old family tree down and start a new one. We have two wonderful sons together, 11 & 13.

    She's right. I cannot force other people to be loving. The only person I can effect is myself and others close to me.

    I wasn't even notified when my mother passed away. I was the "baby" of the family. Mom and I were close (as we could be) .

    I have faith in the mercy of God on her behalf. And, while I'm still here I will work hard so that my future generations won't have to deal with the fall-out of a robotic, unfeeling, cruel religious organization masquerading as prophets of God.

    Who knows, maybe one of my kids will be governor one day?

    God Bless You!

  • pepperheart
    pepperheart

    this is why i like to take as many books and magazines from the carts and trash them.If i can save just one person from being shunned it will be worth it

  • Finkelstein
    Finkelstein

    One of the most harmful elements of the JWs cult is its Dfing policy, it has broken apart millions of families, incited suicides and destroyed lives and relationships.

  • babygirl30
    babygirl30

    The shunning has been going on for 10yrs as of next month (wow time flies)! And I'm used to it, which is so horrible to even say out loud - "I'm used to my parents ignoring me". Smh. For years I've had to lie when people ask me "oh how is your mom..how is your dad doing?" Because I truly have NO idea. Any info I get comes from my aunts and uncles 2nd hand. And after 10yrs of pretending my family is "ok", after 10yrs of taking the brunt while my parents play victims in this DF path I've chosen, today, I told the truth. Finally. And based on the responses I've gotten (almost 75)...a conversation has ensued and the exposure has begun. 😊

  • Diogenesister
    Diogenesister

    That is powerful stuff Baby girl I wish you strength and I would hug you to me if I could.

    His dad also taught him to work hard, value his family and told him not to look too far up the family tree because he wouldn't like what he saw. When he became a teenager, of course he did just that. His father was right, he didn't like what he saw.
    He went on to become a US Governor himself. He said he appreciated how his dad started a new family tree, in spite of what he was given to start with.

    That's a wonderful story, Perry,I often say to my husband we just have to start our own family and keep moving forward as blessed as we are with our children. Above me is a real knotty mess.

  • just fine
    just fine

    Hugs to you this day. No biological family at my college graduation, my wedding or any other events for me. It doesn’t bother me now and I tell everyone why they are not there- my family is in a crazy religious cult.

  • dubstepped
    dubstepped

    Well done babygirl! I'm sorry that you had to have that happen to you for you to speak up about in the first place, but this stuff should be exposed at every chance. They hope we'll all just walk away with our heads down and never expose them for what they are. Take that power back and people will listen. People do care, and not just us as exjws, but people in general don't know about what they do in destroying families. You just did that for someone in all likelihood, you gave them the gift of knowledge. Good for you!

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