How the Society have failed our youth

by truthseeker 19 Replies latest jw friends

  • truthseeker
    truthseeker

    When you think of how much talent and creativity young people have, isn't it a shame that the Watchtower Bible & Tract Society has done absolutely nothing for the development of young people?

    They can print a'Young People Ask' article on the use of cellphones, they can produce a video on how to make friends, and they can release a glossy tract about what will youths do with their life, yet they do nothing to promote 'youth' in the organisation.

    Generation after generation of young people are subjected to 5 boring meetings a week, an endless supply of doors to knock on and an endless amount of literature to read, study and mediatate on.

    I'm not sugessting for one moment that all JW youths/young adults are miserable and bored in the organization. Some seem to have gone through life with ready made friends in their congregation, no bullying at school, steady jobs and some sort of 'career' in the organization, whether it be pioneering or Bethel service.

    But there is a saying that ignorance is bliss and this is true of the religion a lot of us were raised in.

    How may churches do you know have services for young people? How many churches organise days out for youths?

    Ask yourselves these questions...

    Does the society ever encourage education to get a career?

    Does the society encourage education for pleasure or personal interest?

    Does the society have 'youth awareness days' or organise any activity for young people?

    Does the society promote creativity and talents of young people?

    Does the society encourage charitable works for those in need, such as helping the homeless, feeding the poor?

    Has the society organised children's days, as some corporations do?

    All the Watchtower Bible & Tract Society can do is keep beating young people with the Do-More Stick. Do more, go out on Saturday, and Sunday, keep up with your daily Bible reading, go out after school, don't go to college, don't mix with non-JW's, do reach out for full time service.

    Is it any wonder that many of the JW youth rebel against the system?

    Unable to reach any kind of potential, many JW youth are bored silly by meetings, by people that are afraid to be themselves, or are afraid of 'stumbling' each other.

    How can a young person ever really develop and grow in an organization that stifles creativity, competition, talent and potential?

    Congregations today, rarely sponsor any kind of youth activity. In our congregation, we used to have picnics and talent shows. This has been replaced by 'we can't announce any congregation gathering because people might sue us if there is an accident'. Lame indeed, they rarely did anything in the first place.

    If you go to a Kingdom Hall, does your congregation ever organise ANYTHING for young people?

    When was the last time you went to a congregation sponsored 'gathering'?

    The result of this permeating negativity against anything other than field service has resulted in a loss of closeness between congregation members. In my old congregation, young people frequently went off by themselves or in their own cliques. Never being encouraged to mix together, you either found your own friends or became a loner.

    Such is the JW youth of today.

  • Okram
    Okram

    Yup, it sure was a boring place to be as a teen. Let me tell ya.

  • Okram
    Okram

    Good thing i discovered Masturbation.

  • czarofmischief
    czarofmischief

    Ah, masturbation, the perfect sin. Everyone does it, and everyone feels guilty... hee hee, let's beat them some more, and then beat ourselves, hee hee...

    CZAR

  • Joker10
    Joker10

    The congregation might not sponsor a gathering for young people. But people can do a gathering of their own. Don't we all remember the annual congregation picnics?

  • czarofmischief
    czarofmischief

    Yes, Joker, but they've discouraged them in the recent (past five years) past.

    Because they are distracting and take away from the ministry. Seriously, the CO would give a talk about how gatherings to go roller skating would lead to massive orgies culminating in the Satanic sacrifice of a pioneer sister, and then we'd all start building a tower of our own so that the next Flood couldn't drown us.

    Oh wait, maybe he was exaggerating.

    But I do remember the talks that discouraged any kind of socialization that didn't revolve around the ministry. Trust me, it was a big downer when it happened. Our picnics were a staple of life when I was growing up.

    Life was almost pleasant in the early eighties, I mean we had something to do besides preach and read crap about Isaiah being fulfilled in 1919.

    CZAR

  • Mysterious
    Mysterious

    The social gatherings are a joke. Hardly any music is approved, everyone brings food that is definitely not catering to the young people, dancing creates a scandal no matter how it's done. Unless you're an elder's kid and get the "privilege" of going to other congregations when your father has a talk you rarely meet too many youths from other congregations. And there are no official programs because anything that could be gained by them pales in comparison to the "marvelous religious education" that is being given.

  • CruithneLaLuna
    CruithneLaLuna

    Good idea: An all-volunteer organization, that has high ideals and tries to motivate people young and old to full-time service to its cause.

    Bad idea: Making people feel guilty if they aren't motivated to serve full-time, and discouraging them from doing much if anything else with their lives.

    Want to have a family, including children? Expect that idea to be criticized. Want to get an "advanced" education, and enjoy its fruits (an interesting and decently-paying career)? Expect to be made to feel guilty about that. Want to cultivate your talents and NOT use them in ways that are easily identified as "service to God" according to organizational standards? That's "untheocratic."

    I am currently involved with a (non-religious) organization that fits the first description. I have watched for any indications that they fit the second as well, and have seen none, thus far. If I ever do see such indication, I hope I will bolt for the door and kiss them goodbye, because I spent too much time and passed up too many opportunities for a personally meaningful life in the bOrg. "Good idea" equals loving and giving, and offering opportunities for people to express that side of themselves without limit. "Bad idea" equals a form of totalitarianism, sucking people dry and leaving them with nothing for themselves. I have no problem with the first, major problems with the second.

    "Teacher," said John, "we saw a man driving out demons in your name and we told him to stop, because he was not one of us." "Do not stop him," Jesus said. "No one who does a miracle in my name can in the next moment say anything bad about me, for whoever is not against us is for us. I tell you the truth, anyone who gives you a cup of water in my name because you belong to Christ will certainly not lose his reward." - Mark 9:38-41

    The Society loves to quote and apply the complementary verses that say, "Whoever is not with me is against me," and "Whoever does not gather with me scatters." However, it serves their purposes to almost completely ignore the above-quoted passage in Mark, which is part of the same "inspired Word of God."

    Cruithne

  • undercover
    undercover

    Some friends of ours in another religion(not quite as cultish but not far from it) have teenaged kids. Their church has all kinds of programs for the young. They have after school programs. They have daycare. They sponser dances for the teen crowd. Plenty of adult supervision. They keep a close eye on the lyrical content of the music and watch for "lewd" dancing. I'm sure some of the older teens probably think that it's over protected but at least their religion cares enough to provide safe, fun activities for their young ones. JWs do nothing other than print a book once in a while.

    When I was growing up, congregation picnics were very common. The whole congregation was invited, unbelieving spouses were invited, bible studies were invited. There would be upwards of 200 people at a picnic. Softball, volleyball, horseshoes, kiddie games, even live music sometimes. Then came the counsel about large gatherings. The counsel about social gatherings are never sponsered by the "congregation" and some one individual is to be responsible for all activity at any social event damn near killed all congregation picnics. No one wants to be held accountable for the actions of someone else. It just wasn't worth the trouble. Eventually people started planning smaller home picnics and parties. Even that got counseled on. Actually this anti-large gathering counsel has backfired on them. When you had a large gathering like the picnic, everyone behaved and got along for the most part. The elders were watching, no one's going to get really out of hand. When people started partying on their own and going to worldly functions, they started getting into trouble. The teens and young adults found their own fun since the congregation no longer cared enough to provide social activities for them.

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    Youth are forced to be different at school. Whenever a kid stands out, he becomes bombarded with many questions, criticism, and even the possibility of getting his ass kicked for just standing out.

    Another way is the publications designed for youth (ie Learn from the Great Teacher) where the child learns how to lower his confidence in himself by becoming like a slave, learning how not to take the lead in anything, walking away from problems, etc. These problems continue into adulthood and marriage.

    Ah, masturbation, the perfect sin. Everyone does it, and everyone feels guilty

    I remembered when I tried to quit this "filthy" habit. Well actually, it was more of an addiction. I failed and I felt guilty about it. After I left, the guilt went away.

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