Did or does being a JW cause a person to be immature? (page 3)

breeze

Mulan,

I to have these problems. I believe too many in my life?

My boss told a story of a frog and a spider. The frog was about to cross the pond and the spider asked for a ride. The frog replied when we get to the other side you will just bite me and I will lose my life? The spider assured the frog and off they went. On the pther side of the pond the spider bite the frog and he was dieing the frog asked why. The spider said that's what spiders do?????

He realized that I had a problem with people and their dishonesty.

It has taken me forever to get it......don't believe or trust anyone!!!!!!!

BREEZE

gentlesoul

To everyone;

I really appreciate all your answers. It has helped me tremendously in understanding some things about those still in and those out. I am saddened that people are taken away from themselves by this religions lies. When I stated about those being immature I was not implying outwardly but an inward immaturity as I see they have such a control over others I was wondering if that had been taken away from those who were in. I was never in and so it has helped me to understand in many ways. Thank You very much...

searcher

Your diplomacy just slays me sometimes.

Diplomacy Mike? Me?

I didnt know I cared

Valis

It certainly leads to no social maturation for one thing. You can even see it sometimes at Apostafests. Not only do new attendees have the added uneasiness of being amongst the godless former JWs, but simply being around and interacting with people outside the confines of JW social structure can be way over the top for some. I mean really, what does one talk about except Brother PeenBrain had to say on felatio during last Tuesday's local needs talk?

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

DevonMcBride

I noticed this too. I only know 3 JW's. Two are over the age of 55 and both are very immature.

Devon

codeblue

I second Mulan's statement: naive is the word I would use, especially as one was so called "raised in the "truth"...

Please do not put down those who lived a different life than you and call them: immature...

I always had good life skills despite the fact that I lead a sheltered life, although I realize that many do not.

Codeblue

Valis

Please do not put down those who lived a different life than you and call them: immature...

l think you are taking the word immature out of context. It have to mean childish or child like you know. It may mean one hasn't had the time to experience things and for the sake of discussion you have to assume that's what is meant. Otherwise you would end up w/flames all over this topic.

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

asleif_dufansdottir

If, by immature, you mean someone who has never learned to think for themselves, make their own decisions or trust their instincts or their conscience - but instead to run to a group of religious leaders or a bunch of books - then, yes, I think it's pretty obvious they are immature.

I mean really...look at some of the 'counsel' we've talked about on this board...are fireworks OK? How about pinatas? What movies is a grown person 'allowed' to see? Should I be a pall bearer at my grandmother's funeral?

Well, I can't decide these important issues on my own - I'll have to look up what the society says, or ask an elder.

I mean, really...how absurd is this when you look at it from the point of view of 'normal' people???

I've seen grown men worried that they'll 'get in trouble' (w/ the elders) if they buy the car they want - a 2 door. Does anyone else remember a convention drama (maybe it was an illustration, not a drama) from the late 80's where a young married couple got counseled by the elders for buying a fancy new stereo...with their own money - rather than living economically and spending more time in service? Even as a dub I thought that a bit extreme.

Winston Smith :>D

I have noticed an 'arrested developement' [to steal from mustang, it's sounds like an accurate description, even though i'm nowhere near qualified to say if that's the right phrase to use]

I do feel socially stunted at times, as Valis said.

Generally I can mingle rather well, with even with people I meet first off, but something in my life experience feels WAY OFF.

I feel like I am aquiring skills that I should have learned in High School, like I'm a teenager in some respects which, oddly enough, is when I started studying with the dubs.

In talking to a friend who is DF'd, they mentioned that they too felt like they are going through HS all over again, having to learn just the basic aspects of interaction.

By not doing the stupid, dumb-ass High School things and just making your own mistakes, there is an inner urge to go out and learn the lessons that other normal folk have learned from just making these dumb mistakes.

Hard to explain I guess, but it seems to make sense to me anyways.

LDH

Hello everyone! Stopping in to say hi....

Let me say that JW's live in denial. Denial that they will grow old. Denial that they will die. Denial that 1975 was a failure in prophecy. Denial that disfellowshipping is 'good' for the congregation.

How in the world could someone mature as a person with their head buried in the sand? Dogmatic belief that they alone, are God's true worshippers--this puts them into a category about the equivalent of, ummmm....say, a fetus. (as another poster pointed out).

On a personal basis I have two JW who work with me--they are two of the most emotionally undeveloped people I have ever met.

Lisa

Immaturity is an UNDERSTATEMENT Class

Did or does being a JW cause a person to be immature?

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