Were Most Of The Elders "On The Ball" In Your Congregation?

by minimus 48 Replies latest jw friends

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  blondie

  I have been in many congregations over the years. I remember the one elder that was young and so sure of himself and proceeded to insult and downgrade every older JW in the congregation. He was frightened and wanted to do a "good job."

  But most fell into groups:

  Brother Never Remembered He Had a Part Until He Walked in the Door

  Brother Wife Always Writes his Talks

  Brother Never Went Out With The Group/Disappeared Into the Distance

  Brother Never Made a Decision Until He Knew What the PO and SO Were Going to Do

  Brother Lobbyist (trying to get a consensus to support his view)

  Brother Good Cop/Brother Bad Cop

  and so on

  Blondie
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  minimus

  I knew some "gay" elders. They were from Bethel and talked to----- so that they didn't exhibit such gay "tendencies".
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  xjw_b12

  Blondie: That wasn't you was it? The wife I mean.

  Brother Wife Always Writes his Talks
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  Special K

  The top brass in my old congregation was more on "the bottle" than the ball..

  and the top Cong Overseer before that was also the same...More on "the bottle" than the ball.

  Interesting that we had to Congregation Overseers .., both with drinking problems.

  sincerely

  Special K
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  Maggie

  I have to agree with Core...it seems that the really good and sincere Elders spent so much of their time cleaning up and doing the right thing for the rest of the elders that would make a mess that they burn out. It is sad but, these pther men are not really qualified to have the power that they have over the lives of others. I know of all too many elders that were concerned with doing the right thing and that caused them to loose their eldership as the rest of the elders did not or do not want to have to uphold the standards that Christ set before them. Ever seen an elder that might have problems with gluttony or perhaps something else but, it is never dealt with...we all have our imperfections but, are they not an example to us? Few and far between are the fine elders that have been able to keep heart and last in the organization. Maggie
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  fearnotruth22

  dEpends on what part of the Usa you are in.. If you live near bethel. Bethel runs the cong, and bethelite elders runs the cong bethel's way which is the way the ball rolls. But not all elders re on the ball and neither do all elders appointed qualify for the role of elder, Some of these guys we recommend because the work has to be done especially field service overseer and bethel elders dont like work for the most part. Some elders really take their duties to heart, few to say the least, but for the most part this new breeed of eldersin this modern time deep in the time of the end lack compassion and miss the whole point, which is taking care of the needs of the cong, they are in it for themselves and for the positiion seems to me.

  Dont know how things run in hicksville, but close to betthel, although some of these guys on the body dont cut it, there are othesr which are on the ball taking up the slack making things work. SAme pattern in most congs. The work gets done no matter what.
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  blondie

  Blondie: That wasn't you was it? The wife I mean.

  Brother Wife Always Writes his Talks

  I helped my husband with his first talk ever on the school. After that he was on his own. But we did know brothers in my own family and in many congregations that basically got up and read the script written by their wives. They admitted it. One brother's wife died, so he stopped giving talks, took himself off the school and would not do any service meeting parts or public talks. The brothers tried to work with him until they found a brother who would write his talks for him. His wife did a better job.

  Blondie
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  Free in Jesus

  Sad to admit, but most of them are just "businessmen."

  A few day before leaving Bethel (where I had served as a congregation elder and a Bethel elder), a fine young bethelite told me: "I'm going to miss you." And I asked him why. He replied: "Because you're humane."

  I do know what kind of people elders can be and what in reality they're expected to be. Very few are real Christians.
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  Hunyadi

  As a kid, in the afore mentioned infamous now dissolved due to rampant spiritual sickness WINTER GARDENS CONGREGATION, most of the elders were shallow and unfocussed, paying only surface attention to the needs of the congregation, often being part of the scandals themselves.

  It was like: being an elder in that congregation was equivalent to getting to sit at the "cool kids' table".

  H
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  Dismembered

  Re: Were Most Of The Elders "On The Ball" In Your Congregation?

  it was more like they "Had Big Balls" w/some of the crap they pulled.

  Dismembered