In ?78 I did write a letter. I had already asked the elders and got a blank stare.
So I asked headquarters. Who was I ?free? to marry.
I had divorced my husband when I found out that he had molested our eldest daughter. Even tho the elders said that it was an unscriptual divorce because he denied it. It was the 11 year old?s word against his. Yadda yadda.
I made the mistake of allowing a ?brother? to comfort me past the hugging stage. We got df?d. His wife divorced him. We were told that if we married we would never get reinstated because it would be an adulterous marriage. And they would not accept my request for reinstatement as long as I had any sort of contact with him. It didn?t matter that I was pregnant with his child. Out of loyalty to Jehovah I broke it off with the now x-brother. He did not see his son until the child was 6 years old.
I was a young 30 something hot blooded female. The scripture said that if I was inflamed with passion then I should marry.
But I was df?d. The hard hearted Gestapo elder body was not in a mood to reinstate me. I remained df?d for three years. I never missed a meeting the whole three years. I drug my five kids to every meeting unless one of them was too sick to get out of bed.
So here was my dilemma. Mastrubation was not an option. I would not return to the molester. I was not allowed to marry the father of my youngest child. If I married a so called worldly man the Gestapo would see that as disloyalty to Jehovah. I was not allowed not associate with other df?d persons so they were off the availability list. No JW in good standing could associate with me or they would get the ax.
So who was I ?free? to marry?
They wrote a letter to the Gestapo which pissed them off even more.
Loris