Angel of the North "BAB-tism" !! I think you unwittingly created a great new description for JW baptism LoL!
Ever Apostate @ Sadly my study conductor passed away, younger than average, from lung cancer over 12 years ago, despite never having smoked. Despite this I often have dreams of talking to her and very respectfully explaining my feelings around WTBTS. I say this because she was an exceptionally good person with love for all - the best type of Christian - and it hurts me that, as a convert, she wasted most of her adult life slaving for the WTBTS. She also raised her kids in the org, although refused to shun her disfellowshipped child I believe the stress caused by the shunning rules, when they tightened up, contributed to her developing a cancer she never should have had. Her husband was baptised, something I believe he did to ensure family unity, and fairly quickly stopped attending following her death. He is very angry about her death....I want so much to talk to him but I fear telling him what I know about Rutherford, Russell, Franz et al may make his rage against the org/life/God worse and hence make him feel more retched.
If your study conductors are healthy and cannot come between you and your mother or wife then a calm, polite explanation is well in order. One has to think, primarily, of any further cult victims they may create/convert. Sadly, the nicer the jw as a person the more *likely* they are to convert more people. Especially the vulnerable, as I was, a parent-less young child.