Blind Date.......Who's been on one? How'd it go?.......

by ScoobySnax 31 Replies latest jw friends

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  FlyingHighNow

  I've been on three. None of my blind dates worked out at all.

  One of them looked like Mark David Chapman. He took me and a bottle of wine to a drive-in movie. I sat smashed up against the passenger door of the car,on purpose, the whole night.

  The second guy? I had to hold his hand to keep it out of my lap most of the day. But hey, it was a trip to Six Flags. I just enjoyed the park and kept the wolf at bay.

  The last one was with a brother. I was only studying. Don't know why he went out with me since he was baptized. He was nice enough. Very polite. He had no clue what to do with the peppermill at dinner in a nice restaurant. I had to show him how it worked. I was feeling very unworthy of any brother anyway. They were all so pure and good and I was worldly afterall.

  I have heard of blind dates that worked out well. I think probably those are the exception. Whoever hooked you up would have to know you both very well, I'd imagine, for it to work well.

  Like they say, go to a non threatening place and just relax, be yourself and have fun. Ask her questions about herself. Usually a date will enjoy your interest and it gives you something to talk about to break the ice.

  Heather
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  maybesbabies

  I don't know about blind dates, but it's kinda like when I met someone from this board, you don't know what to expect, therefore it's best to go into it with no expectations. You have to go into it with the "tabula rasa" mentality, a total blank slate with no ideas of how it "should" be, just get to know them as an individual, not a potential mate, friend, or anything else. By the way, I ended up really liking the person I met, as an individual, and I think that's the most important part of meeting someone new. Just get to know them, really, and it should all fall into place. If they're right as friend, Great! If they're right as a lover, Great!! If they turn out to be just someone you had dinner with, Great!!!!! You just can't take it seriously or put any sort of importance on it. Just my $0.02.
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  Maverick

  Scooby your attitude is typical! You have already decided what you want to do and are just looking for validation! And if you don't get it you blow it off!

  I have a lady friend that buys me stuff all the time. I hate it, and told her so. She, being a waitress, asked all her male customers about my reaction. To a man, they told her the same thing I did! She told me this and said she was quite surprised by the responses she got from the guys. Did she stop? Hell no! When I brought it up, after another expensive gift, her reply was," I will do what I want to do and that's that!" And this is not the first time I've seen this kind of reasoning from a woman!

  So, go for it and have a ball! But don't ask for advice if you really don't want to hear the truth! Maverick
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  worldlygirl

  I had one not long ago, and the date was terrible but it all ended well. We met at a restaurant/bar (ALWAYS drive your own vehicle on a blind date so you have an "escape") and I suggested that we have a drink before being seated for dinner. He said, "oh, I don't drink and the smoke makes my head hurt." I don't mean to sound like a wild woman, but it WAS a BAR for goodness sake! Anyway, the dinner itself was painful... he was really nervous and couldn't seem to make a complete sentence.

  Anyway, now for the good part. When I went to the Ladies room, I had to walk through the bar and there were a group of my friends from high school that I hadn't seen in years (literally - I mean like 10+ years!!!) So we quickly came up with a plan... I went back to my table and cordially finished dinner, offered to split the check, let him walk me to my car, drove to the next exit, turned around and came back to the bar... I hung out with my old friends for hours, then we ended up going out to a dance club and staying out all night!!! It was GREAT!!!!
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  iiz2cool

  I went on several blinds dates and all but one turned out very well.

  Bring enough condoms to last a few days.

  Walter
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  RAYZORBLADE

  - on that note Walter, I'm going to turn in for the rest of the day.
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  Badger

  I've been on four, one while and with a JW, and the other three in the A.F. (After Fade) era.

  two, including the JW date, was with women who told me mid-date they were engaged.

  other two, good, but didn't want to see me again.
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  Nosferatu

  I've been on one. She was a friend of a friend. We went to the same high school together, but I had no clue who she was, but she knew who I was. So I looked up her picture in one of my yearbooks just so I could know who to look for. From the picture, she didn't look too fantastic, but I decided to give it a shot. I told her to meet me for coffee.

  So, I show up 5 minutes late and walk in the place. I recognized her right away from the picture I saw, but she was much better looking in real life! I bought my coffee and we sat and chatted for about an hour or so. She had a very nice ass, and a pretty face. The coffee date was going okay, but I needed to get my hands on her. So I said to her, "Why don't we get the f*** out of here and go do something fun?". We ended up going bowling, and I was able to get my hands on her :)

  We ended up dating for 1 1/2 months. Near the end, I found myself dating another woman on top of her. Good thing too, because the blind date chick flaked out shortly after. She wasn't bad looking, but she was kinda boring to hang out with. The new girl I was dating was a lot more fun, and I still have fond memories of her.

  Basically, my game plan for the blind date was to meet her for coffee, and If I liked her, go somewhere else which worked really well. Scooby, if this person turns out to be not your type (looks, personality, etc), just say you can't stay long and you have things to do. You don't have to make up any excuses because it's none of their business. It's an easy bail and I encourage you to take it if you need to. NEVER put all your investments into one person unless you're marrying them.
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  TresHappy

  My sister went on a blind date once - and next month they celebrate their 30th wedding anniversary - and a grandchild!
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  Country_Woman

  no advises but:
  
  Have a great date.....