Okay, just for the sake of focussing on my main point let's concede you are right about kids not putting lives on hold.
All apocalyptic religions (including SDA and mainstream evangelicals) are poison.
Apart from causing young people to put their lives on hold it teaches them that millions of non-favoured humans will be obliterated by their god any moment.
That is the most damaging aspect of religion and raising children in those groups is mental abuse.