by ESTEE 19 Replies latest jw friends
We are not "officially" living together ... yet ... we do spend lotsa time at each others' places, though ...
Taking things slow ... we've been dating for a bit longer than five months ... that isn't a whole lot of time to really get to know each other in my estimation...Still in the romance phase ... Of course I'd like to stay in that phase for about forty more years!!!
ESTEE
Sounds perfect to me!!
Of course I'd like to stay in that phase for about forty more years!!!
I hope you do too!
This is just another proof against the theory that if we leave the WTS, we will no longer be blessed.. BS ... Look at your life and how POSITIVE it has become since leaving!! THAT IS A BLESSING!!
hehehe!!! this side of the borg!!! There is valid reason to shed the FEAR beliefs that the dubs instilled in us to the core. can change our core beliefs into something healthy and functional!! That is my message here ... and I think it is an important one...
ESTEE<------------ of the "kitty-with-a-mission" class
Estee, I don't know you well and I sorta let loose on your "other" thread so I wanted to drop by and check this one out.
It is wonderful that you are so happy and everything is working out for you!! I know the happiness of new love and I'm sure you guys will keep it going for more then 5 months and I hope it's 5000 months!!
Happy posts make me happy.
Very nice post! I hope the best for you, your courage is being blessed! Huxley
slipnslidemaster wrote:
I know the happiness of new love and I'm sure you guys will keep it going for more then 5 months and I hope it's 5000 months!! ... Happy posts make me happy.
Thanks slipnslidemaster! I am glad to hear that you know of new love. What I've been learning lately is that the Universe does not withhold nice things from people if they are not JW ... as the dubs would have us believe. That is a FEAR tactic and belief ... one that we would be well rid of. "Ask and you will receive," the scripture says ... It doesn't say, "Dubs may ask and maybe receive ... if they have been good dubs."
Huxley wrote:
your courage is being blessed!
Yes, We are all survivors here...survivors of a dangerous mild-controlling cult. It does take courage to leave, and it does take courage to take hold of new beliefs and let go of old ones that no longer serve us... and it is well worth the effort!
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From what I have been learning about old beliefs and replacing them, it is a very necessary process when leaving a cult. See, I have been learning that if you hang on to those old beliefs, even just in the back of your mind somewhere, they will come back and bite you when you aren't expecting. For example, if you are in a new and loving relationship, and one of those old beliefs kicks in, say, "I am undeserving of blessings if I am not a dub," then you will end up sabatoging your new loving relationship, because your subconscious says you are undeserving of something so nice and so wonderful.
I have found something wonderful and my intention is for it to last because I and all ex-jws deserve happiness. Only the dubs make living complicated. The reality is ... happiness and functionality are attainable by everyone ... easily!! Let go of the old "belief in struggle". That is another dub-ism, as far as I'm concerned. Believe in and trust in yourself!!!
ESTEE
For example, if you are in a new and loving relationship, and one of those old beliefs kicks in, say, "I am undeserving of blessings if I am not a dub," then you will end up sabatoging your new loving relationship, because your subconscious says you are undeserving of something so nice and so wonderful
I have found this to be very true.
thanks for this great post
Thanks for your validation Happehanna! Welcome again to the forum! I'm looking forward to hearing more of your threads!
ESTEE
WOW! and WOW! and WOW, ESTEE! Such wonderful news and such splendid validation of yall's relationship....Kudos to yall, ESTEE! I wish you the best of the best....but it seems you already have that...
Hugs,
Frannie B
For example, if you are in a new and loving relationship, and one of those old beliefs kicks in, say, "I am undeserving of blessings if I am not a dub," then you will end up sabatoging your new loving relationship, because your subconscious says you are undeserving of something so nice and so wonderful
ESTEE.. I so agree too.. as a matter of fact.. I think this would be an important thread to discuss this issue separately.. I know I am dealing with issues in my handling my emotional exit issues and being in a new relationship is hard enough but having the JW stuff in there too.. MAN.. I need to figure a balance.. I think I might start a thread on it.. if you don't mind me stealing that line of thought from here.. (I don't want this thread to get hijacked off of your relationship) but stay focus on just you and your happy stuff!
