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happyagain

Hi everyone. Thank you for taking the time to listen. I feel since I'm new I should share my story. I was born a JW, my entire family at the time were all JW's. I knew no other way of life. Things were so great when I was younger, I loved my mom and dad, they loved each other, and we all loved Jehovah. But as I grew older I felt myself thinking outside the box. My father became an elder, my mother a regular pioneer. I felt so much pressure to be a pioneer myself. When I was a senior in high school I wanted a better life for myself, college, a career, but as we all well know, that was looked down upon for a young women. We were supposed to find a nice brother and get married and stay home, have babies, and pioneer. To me at 17 that was a load of crap!! I was DF'd at 18. My younger sister was happy with this, so of course that what she did. Me on the other hand ended up marrying way too young to a "worldly man" just to get out. He was physically and emotionally abusive. My parents only could say I told you so. Instead of going back I put all my energy into my career, becomming the younget Exec VP and partner of a large brokerage firm in Atlanta. I finally left my husband and finally decided to deal with my shame and guilt. I had such a fear of God, I felt I was never worthy enough, I felt I was going to be killed as soon as Armegedon came. I sought professional help, something that is so shunned as a JW. It took two years of therapy to undo all the hurt. My parents and my sister will have nothing to do with me still, and ten years later I have finally found TRUE happiness. I met my wonderful husband, have two beautiful children, a beautiful home, and after a succesful career, have chosen to stay at home and raise my kids. None of my family has ever met my husband or my children. I felt the need to get involved with this website to let all those know who are in doubt that it is possible to move on and be happy. I don't live in constant fear anymore that God is displeased, or that an elder will be calling my house to ask what I've been doing. I feel the need to help the young ones, I only hope I can be there to help. I chose not to allow my family to even try to be a part of our lives. I am now in control instead of being controlled.

xjw_b12

WOW ! happyagain. That is an awesome story. Thnak you so much for coming out and sharing it with us. That took a lot of courage to do on a first post like that.

I felt the need to get involved with this website to let all those know who are in doubt that it is possible to move on and be happy. I don't live in constant fear anymore that God is displeased, or that an elder will be calling my house to ask what I've been doing. I feel the need to help the young ones, I only hope I can be there to help. I chose not to allow my family to even try to be a part of our lives. I am now in control instead of being controlled.

Thank you and bless you.

happyagain

Courage is something I had to learn at such an early age. Too early!! Any true follwer of christ would want to protect the children. JW's do just the opposite, they hang them out to dry. For what? For being typical teenagers? For having NORMAL hormones and emotions.

Nathan Natas

Welcome, happyagain!

A wonderful and encouraging story of real accomplishment.

Your practical wisdom will benefit many.

May I ask what "genration" of JWs you and your family were? 50s? 60s? 70s? 80s? etc...

Best wishes to you and yours.

Your family has deprived themselves of much by choosing to shun you.

Puternut

Happyagain,

Welcome to the board. Congratulations on your new life. Yes it is possible to move on and not allow the WT to control your life or mind and conscience. Like yourself, many here have a similar experience in life. And now you are free and happy, and that 's what you deserve.

Keep in touch with us, as you will find many new friends here.

Puternut

seeitallclearlynow

happyagain, I especially love the last 2 sentences of your original post - you really turned the tables on them - and what a success story! Happy Ending. Great!!!

Sassy

Thank you for sharing your story with us Happyagain! WELCOME TO JWD (I know I said that in chat already)..

We are so glad to get a chance to know you and I know you will be an immeasureable example for those feeling controlled and unhappy and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel outside the JW box!!!

Funchback

Thanks for the uplifting story, Happyagain. I look forward to you sticking around for a while.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I loved your story!!! Stories like yours are what bring people out of their shell. Most who are lurking must feel fear to stay in the walls of the WT. But to read a story like yours is a big inspiration to them. You sound so confident. I wish I had more of that!

Welcome

Strawberryfieldsforever

calamityjane

Nice to hear your story.

cj

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