Mary,
My heart goes out to you, first for your medical problems, and then having to experience such ignorant, hurtful, slanderous talk. I agree, you did the right thing to go to the source. Bravo for you for standing up for yourself!!
What this Witness displayed, to me is really much the same as what the "organization" does.....trying to micro-manage people's lives, often without fully considering the facts. Sadly, so many Witnesses are so blind as to how they inject their own personal views and likes/dislikes into what they say about others.....SHEEEEEESH!
After hearing from you what had been said, did the "elder" put his wife in her place? Just wondering, as I would think it fits the Witness's definition of slander, a serious offense.
----Dan