Third post about the big disappointments that woke me up. I'm writing them in no particular order. These episodes made me bitter when they happened. They all happened within a short time span (about a year ) and they made me question who these people actually were. After all these incidents, I developed an instinctive fear and repulsion for JWs. Before long, I started drifting away from them to shield myself from their callous ways.
In my family, we always made it a point to receive the co when he's visiting. Ever since I've been living on my own, I always tried to respect the tradition. What we normally do is that 4 or 5 single people will decide upon a weekly day to have the co for lunch.
it normally worked well. We sometimes had splendid visits with heart to heart, up building conversations with the COs and their wives. Other times, it was quite boring but the joy of having the CO over for a meal was still there.
Then came this CO. Utterly disrespectful. Terribly inconsiderate. It was pure hell sitting through his talks because the man would just be standing there spewing INSULT after INSULT. He gave me the impression that I was a slave instead of a believer.
It was the first time he was visiting our congregation. So as usual, I gave my name to have him and his wife over for lunch, together with other people in the cong. This was done the week before his visit. After the first meeting, which I thoroughly hated, elders called me to let me know that brother CO had rejected all invitations to homes for the duration of the week. I asked why. They told me that he said that he only enjoys having sandwiches for lunch and so he doesn't need to go to anyone's house for that.
It was such a jaw dropping moment! Like seriously? Yes. He's cancelled all invitations? Yes.
Okay. Cool. Never ever in my life had I seen or heard of a CO refusing all invitations to have lunch with congregation members. In my culture, that's a big no-no, and I'm sure he was aware of this.
Turns out, he actually lives in our area and I suppose he just wanted to be going to his own home since it wasn't that far away. That, I heard weeks later. Which ever way, I thought it was quite insensitive of him to actually refuse to visit members of the cong for that. I guess he knew so too, since he invented the sandwich excuse. I mean, we will make sandwich for you if that's what you want. What matters to us is to have you over. Mr CO knew that but couldn't care less about our a**es.
Needless to say, I missed his next visits (3 I think). I always found a reason to be absent that week. I couldn't stand the mere sight of his arrogant self.
For his second visit, elders were asking who would like to receive him. Turns out, for whatever reason, that this time around he was willing to fulfill his COly duties. They naturally approached me about it. I happily said 'no, I can't ' and turn my heels.
For his first visit, I was disappointed because there were some things I was wanting to discuss with him, and at that point in time, any encouraging words would have greatly helped me in the state where I was. As at the time of the second visit, I had learnt my lessons and I was looking for the way out.
