New Book: The Meaning of Wife

Scully

I saw this book yesterday at Costco and I'm watching a discussion of it on a talk show right now. Has anyone read it? Any thoughts? BTW, I love the cover graphic. Very provocative.

The Meaning of Wife

Nosferatu

Got any excerpts from it, Scully? Might be interesting.

simplesally

I know some guys that should read, The Meaning of Husband.

Scully

Here's the publishers comments from www.chapters.ca

From the Publisher

There is a wife crisis in North America, a brewing storm of conflicting forces swirling around what it means to be a wife at the beginning of the 21st century. The word ?wife,? so fraught with ambiguity that it has become a female litmus test, elicits from women emotions ranging from longing to antipathy, anxiety to derision. The wife crisis is at the heart of journalist Anne Kingston?s often surprising and bound to be controversial new book, The Meaning of Wife.

Cannily juxtaposing the Korean wife schools currently operated by the USO in Seoul with the recent marriage of feminist icon Gloria Steinem, Kingston delves into the complex, troubling, and sometimes humorous contradictions, illusions and realities of contemporary wifehood. She looks at ?wife backlash,? and the new wave of neo-traditionalism that urges women to marry before their ?best-before? date expires.

She muses on the fact that Oprah Winfrey and Martha Stewart, two of the world?s wealthiest and most influential women and, interestingly, non-wives, are beloved by their target audience of wives. She investigates the massive bridal industry, noting the elevation of the bride to a consumer icon?a brilliant marketing twist on the historical role of the bride as an object to be consumed. Exploring the role of the sexualized wife, she talks to Lou Paget, a.k.a. the ?Martha Stewart of sex tips.? And, in a fascinating discourse on the economic value of being a wife, Kingston thoughtfully weighs the value of a virgin bride and the financial repercussions of divorce. Along the way, she talks to experts and ordinary wives, famous and infamous wives, second wives and trophy wives. The result is an entertaining mix of social, sexual, historical and economic commentary, a book that will become one of the most talked about of the season.

I'm watching the interview with Anne Kingston on Vicki Gabareau's show. Right now they are talking about the social role and expectations that were imposed on Princess Di (had to be approved by the monarchy and be a virgin etc) and her transition over the years. And now juxtaposes the image of Camilla Parker-Bowles and her relationship with Prince Charles.

They've already talked about how women over the centuries started out as being "property" being exchanged for goods and services and alliances between men, and the social evolution of women and marriage.

I think I'll go and buy it next time I'm at Costco.

Scully

I also watched Mona Lisa Smile last night and was amazed at the change in attitude toward a woman's role and place in society over the last 50 years. It really wasn't that long ago that a woman's identity was completely enmeshed with her being married and her husband's success.

Valis

Thought maybe you also might like this new book.. AND OK ALREADY>>>SORRY! DIDN"T MEAN TO KILL Scull's thread..

The Atlantic Monthly | March 2004

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