this has probably been mentioned before, but...

by LuckyNun 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  LuckyNun

  if you're like me, you used to dread certain days of the week. mainly, Tuesdays and Thursdays for me. waste the entire day at school, then come home, take a shower, scarf down supper and be ready to go by 6:30pm. waste the evening at the meeting, then come home and try to cram in homework before bed. it took me a few years before I was able to think of Tuesdays and Thursdays in positive terms. sometimes I'll be at a show listening to good music and drinking and talking with friends, and I'll realize it's a Tuesday or Thursday, and I'll just smile, because I'm finally free.

  so, how long did it take for you to like former meeting nights?

  if you still go, do you find yourself dreading them?

  TESTIFY, BROTHA...
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  gitasatsangha

  moment I stopped going, but I dont remember really ever dreading those days.
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  new light

  I totally relate, Lucky Nun. Tuesdays and Thursdays were just different, in that they sucked. There was this overwhelming sense of dread on those days all through my childhood. That weirdness is just now going away. It's really hard to explain the concept to anyone who didn't grow up a JW. The "T" days were different, they had their own feeling, like there was no hope on those days. Monday, Wednesday, and Friday were fine-----no dubbish activities pre-planned. As a kid, I woke up with anticipation on those days, especially Friday. You're right, it is SO good to be free from that bullshit finally. Every day has its own optimism now. Saturday and Sunday mornings are mine, as they should be. Growing up a JW absolutely blew.
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  czarofmischief

  I STILL get a little knot in my stomach if I realize it is Friday night, which is when I used to have the meetings. Sheesh, couldn't play outside, had to get my homework done so I could get dressed and go to the meeting and sit for two hours talking about absolute BS.

  I'd have been better going to AA meetings at the age of twelve than going to those hellhole boot camps of the spirit.

  CZAR
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  blondie

  I say substitute something fun or exciting, good or tasty, get a hobby. I am an amateur photographer and I built frames and mat my own stuff and put on my gallery wall. I get to see all the places I have been to.

  Or count your blessings.

  Tuesday night....I can watch NCIS, Mark Harmon is so cute.

  Make this "Treat Myself to a Sundae" at your local ice cream shop. Jog down there to justify the calories.

  Thursday night

  I watch CIS and Without a Trace.

  Make this pizza night, make your own or down to the pizza parlor.

  Go to the gym

  Have friends over for cards and a few beers
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  new light

  This thread has brought up a nice littleball of anger regarding my (and a lot of other people's) childhood. MEETINGS SUCKED! What a waste of time! The hours leading up to them sucked even more!
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  Elsewhere

  Hallelujah Sista!!!! *** Get?in the Hoooooly Ghost ***

  The first few years out I would always get a great since of relief and freedom every Tuesday and Thursday evening knowing that I did not have to go to the KH any more. I also would wake up Saturday and Sunday mornings with the same feeling? FREEDOM!
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  JH

  I never did like meeting days. Preparing the meetings was as long as the meeting itself. It was just too much time and effort, and it started all over every 2 days.

  Now, I enjoy my Sundays, Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays.
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  CeriseRose

  I had not really been attending meetings regularly for quite sometime before actually DA-ing in January. However, on those Tuesdays and Thursdays I always felt guilty, because I was 'supposed' to be there.
  
  After I had written and dropped off the letter, I didn't feel guilt anymore. However, it didn't really hit me till about Wednesday of this week...when the local Continuing Education flyer (night school) came out. As I looked through the same (and a few different) courses that I always did, I had this epiphany that if I wanted to take one or two classes, I didn't have to juggle them with meetings. In fact, I could take them and not even have to think about switching meeting nights (when I took college classes that conflicted I actually attended a neighbouring cong's meetings to keep 'regular').
  
  So I think it'll be yoga on Thursdays (never could figure out what was so wrong about that anyway), and Bellydancing on Wednesdays. Boy that feels good.
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  Steve Lowry

  Yea, I haven?t thought about this in a while. But man, I hated Tuesdays and Fridays (these were the days at my K. Hall). As a kid, I just grew to dread these two days, especially Friday. Knowing I was gonna have to sit motionless and with nothing to do but listen to a bunch of boring crap that I couldn?t relate to, just made my heart sink on those days. I hated it so much that I tried several tricks and tactics to get me out of those meetings. Once I took a pencil (I was about nine years old) and scratched the inside of my nose just a little, to make myself sneeze and then acted like I was sick. This worked a couple of times but eventually nothing would ?trick? my mom into leaving. I gotta tell ya, when I think about this, it makes me mad as a hell. That she (and all JW parents) could take a little kid and subject them to such fking boring crap and for several hours a week is nothing short of child abuse IMO. Actually, I guess its part of the ?mind dumbing down? process to desensitize JW?s as they grow up. I think most kids just finally give up and mindlessly go and sit there like zombies. It kinda reminds me of the people in the movie, The Time Machine (the original). This loud horns blows, and the people just get a blank stare on the faces and start walking to the Hall, uh, I mean to the mountainside where the underground dwellers take them in. And you remember what the underground dwellers did to them once they were inside, right? What?s the difference between this and the Watchtower Society?s ?horn? blowing? It?s a pretty good analogy I think. Yea.

  I think that to this day it has jaded my desire to ?church go?. I don?t like getting dressed to go, or driving there and certainly not sitting through the "ceremonies". I?ve had enough of that for a lifetime. But at least most churches I?ve been to, they have a place for little kids to go during the services in the main sanctuary. They can play games and do all kinds of kid things and even make a game out of learning about the bible and stuff. That?s the difference between a loving environment, and a heartless driven cultic group being led by a self serving parasite like the Watchtower Society.

  Well, go ahead and blow your 'horn' bitch, I know what it means now and I ain?t falling for it no more!