My sister, who is still IN, has just recently graduated from college (four year university) with a good degree and has landed a great job. Its likely that she will never meet a JW man who is completely compatible with her, as she is educated, smart, and makes more money than about half her cong. combined.
She is drop dead gorgeous, and has total strangers stop her on the street to tell her how beautiful she is. Yet she calls me at least once a week crying about her on again off again relationship with her controlling, depressed JW boyfriend. She stays with him because she is afraid to be alone, and because she feels he is the only one she can really "talk with" who is at her level (ie she doesn't have to "dumb down") She realizes she is somewhat of an anomaly in the JW world because of her level of education, and is starting to realize the cost to her, relationship wise, of this. It hurts me to see her so sad and lonely with no hopeful prospects at all...her self esteem seems to be at an all time low...and there is nothing really I can do to help her. I believe she stays IN more for the social aspect than anything, she is extroverted and needs to be around people, parties, a lot. She's coming home this weekend and I'm sure will start in with the same routine, "I'll never find anyone, no one wants me," etc.... It sickens me to hear this because she is such an attractive person, inside and out, and I just want to SHAKE her!
AArrrghh!!