"Sharing" a piece of myself - part 2

by Tallyman 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  COMF

  All replies to this New Thread which Farkel started were positive and supportive, with the exception of one - the last person who weighed in - COMF

  
  It was neither positive and supportive, nor negative and undermining. It was a neutral observation. I was not in a position to be either positive or negative about what happened, since I knew absolutely nothing about it. Anyone with a lick of sense knows better than to choose sides in such issues as yours based on what he reads on an internet forum.

  Talleyman had an online reputation for being loud, obnoxious and in-your-face. Farkel's description didn't match that:
  

  He is a very soft-spoken and sensitive guy

  
  Please. Those who, like me, know you only from observing your online activities on H2O will agree that "softspoken" and "sensitive" are the last words anyone would have chosen to describe you. And so, being one who calls it like I see it, I said as much, taking issue with the words of my good friend Farkel. I couched my observation in terms that conveyed a tongue-in-cheek humor, exaggerating my description of your online persona and adopting the use of your K for C trademark:
  

  ...this Kalm Koncerned Karacter you describe Kan't be the King of the Killer Kult busters!

  
  Then, in a nod to the understanding that Farkel probably knows you better, knows a side of you that doesn't show online, I said:
  

  Another case of aggression emerging from behind the shields of internet distance and invisibility?

  
  ...meaning, if you really are the "very soft-spoken and sensitive guy" that Farkel describes, then the loud, aggressive, antisocial behavior you exhibit online must be... well, read my quote again.

  As someone experiencing great emotional stress and upheaval, you aren't expected to see the subtleties at work here. I hope you'll be able to grasp that fact that there was no slight to you in anything I said. If not... oh, well.

  COMF
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  somebody

  COMF,

  I usually do not step into things like this but I'm jumping in to say this:

  As someone once said, "There's a know it all in every crowd."

  I feel MUCH better having said that. I needed to get that out a long time ago!

  Tally

  I'll post my response very soon.

  peace,
  somebody
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  somebody

  wendy,

  You've helped a lot more people here than you give yourself credit for. All the best to you, you deserve it!

  peace,
  somebody
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  COMF

  Somebody, since you addressed your words to me, I gather that I'm the one you're calling a know-it-all. Would you mind explaining that?

  Tom misunderstood something I said. He brought it up here, which gave me a chance to clarify what was meant. Where does know-it-allness come into play in that?

  Please take my post to Tom and highlight the know-it-all parts, and explain how it is that "know-it-all" is what they are. That way I can be better educated about this unwelcome trait and avoid giving offense in the future.

  COMF
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  esther

  Tom, if three police officers couldn't disarm your brother, what chance did you have?

  (((((((Tom)))))))

  esther
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  COMF

  Please take my post to Tom and highlight the know-it-all parts, and explain how it is that "know-it-all" is what they are.

  Well, poop. No response. That's disheartening, even if it was expected.

  COMF
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  mommy

  Comf,
  If I may intrude for a moment?

  You did a good job of defending your comment. But I also see Tally's point, at the time he is going through tough emotions and your comment was far from nice. I have spoken to you before about your callous lack of human beings and feelings. You claim to have "empathy we have not seen" Well after reviewing this post...I am left undecided. I honestly feel that maybe you may have been joking, as you stated you had. Perhaps you can not see the difference in a public and personal personna. Perhaps you are stuck on public personna. I do not know, I cannot answer for you.

  One thing I have done, and it has benefitted me greatly, is it get on a personal basis with people. Find out who they are, don't assume they are as they print. perhaps I am wrong at bringing this topic back up. obviously Tally is not satisfied with your comments about the post. Maybe you could extend again, and see where that gets you.

  I am familiar with the human trait of festering. Perhaps Tally has let this fester? Maybe after months and months of misunderstanding, he has had it, and wants no peace. Personally I would not let it go that long. I would confront on the first attack, or disregard. But I have never been where he was, have you? Can you fathom the emotions he has gone through? Can you not understand that humankind as a whole has a duty to support or neglect?

  I want to be a supporter, I feel a neglecter will only be left wanting in the end.

  I have been accused of being a doormat. I have been told I give a person a chance when none should be given. But I can tell you this, I feel peace in my soul. I know that no matter what I have done my upmost to give benefit of a doubt, and tried to understand. It really is a freeing experience COMF. To say...it is ok for another to have a differing view, and even to carry their burden for a bit. Oh yes, it does take from you a bit, but it will be returned.

  I am stealing Shelby's line...I bid you peace

  If you are happy with yourself, so be it, but if you cannot see that you have caused pain to another and refuse to acknowledge that, well... I again bid peace, to your soul.
  wendy