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robo-church

Just thought I would introduce myself. I've lurked here for a while, lately I feel like I need some support. I was born a JW. Both my parents are still in the org, attend meetings regularly but rarely going out in service (heh.) I live at home and go through the motions so I don't get kicked out. I'm thinking about taking on a second job so I dont have to stay here anymore. People at work invite me out to party but I have to turn them down because my parents don't want me to have "worldly" friends. So really I have no friends whatsoever in real life. I want to get out of here and make them but at the same time I still love my family. They know about my doubts so I hope it won't be too much of a shock when I leave. Sorry if this seems incoherent, I've been up for awhile.

Black Sheep

Hi robo, welcome to the board.

I have been where you are now and decided to leave home without telling them. I just disapeared. A prick of a thing to do, I know, but it was really the only way to get away from my hellfire and brimstone father without all his threats of armageddon etc.

The big difference for you is that you realise there is something wrong in the org. I wish I had recognised that at your age.

Corvin

Welcome Robo-church, and thanks for lurking no more.

Yours is a common story and stand by, for many intelligent and coherent former JW's are about to post some pretty helpful advice. We, most of us, have been through it all. We can help. You will find much love and support here in this forum.

I believe the first step, in your case, is to gain your independence from your parents. You cannot manuever whatsoever under the scrutiny of any JW whether it be your parents or someone else in the congregation.

Educate yourself and be armed with accurate knowledge about the truth. Know the truth about "The Truth".

Decide how you want to exit, but consider: Are you baptized? Did you get baptized while still a minor? (there are some legal options should you need them) Should you fade? Should you come out boldly against the WTBTS? What is practical for you? Should you simply appear to be inactive and have your parents, elders and others in the congregation always on your ass about meetings and service? Ultimately, does it matter that you lose the association of those you know in the organization if you should come out? Do you wish to maintain some relationships with certain ones? So many questions specific to your situation, and only you can decide what is best for you.

Some have boldly and resolutely come out against the organization in sort of an activist kind of way. Others are still attending meetings and coming here in cognito.

Ask yourself; what result do I really want to get? How free do I want to be? Start there. Then determine what it is that you must do in order to reach that goal. What will it take for you to have your life the way you want it?

Best Regards,

Corvin

pc

Greetings Robo. Glad you said hello. First of all do alot of reading here. You'll find good information and great advice. Since your young try to equip yourself so you can be independent. Do you go to school? Education is a first priority. Then you can get a good job and find a career you love and that is always freeing! Anytime you need help just pop out a question. Again a very warm welcome. PC

five_crew

Welcome, I have been in your shoes and did the same as black sheep, I left without telling anyone. They didn't know where I was. It was hard, but so much relief

mouthy

Welcome Robo. This old lady's advice Is Pray for guidence!!!! Glad you know it isnt truth.. That will help in the escape.

Keep finding out about the errors. But TRY to keep harmony in the family Try not to leave in anger.

Then the WT will have done what it wants to do Divide!!!! the sheep-

DevonMcBride

Hello Robo and welcome.

Devon

Doubtfully Yours

Welcome.

DY

Bryan

Great you came in from the dark.

My experience was to decide that I was going to live my life and no one elses. You can no more make decissions for your father on how he should live his life, than him for you (unless you are a minor and in his home, in TX you can leave legally at 17). I was always the black sheep of my family, so leaving made no difference. But I truly feel one of the most important laws of life many people don't understand is that this life is yours. To live your life to please other people is distructive of your own mental health and personal welfare. The second time I left (and final) I actually told myself "This is it... I'm going to do what Bryan wants to do, and screw everyone else." And I have never been happier.

I know it's upsetting to have the ones you love to turn their backs on you, but that is their life. My father hasn't spoke to me in seven years. I feel sorry for him, he's missing out on so much.

I hope you find your way, and realize it won't be easy, but most likely, in time you will feel so free and happy. And unfortunatly you probably will learn that all that love you had in your life was never unconditional.

Posted with hope for those seeking freedom.

Bryan

seeitallclearlynow

Welcome robo-church! It's so tough being young and having no apparent "rights" or power, isn't it?? Most young people have that to a certain extent, but it's much more difficult in your situation, and I feel for you.

Hopefully you can bide your time here awhile; you'll have plenty of web friends anyway, while you make up your mind and make your plans.

There are more and more young people here all the time. It's great!

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