by cameo 12 Replies latest jw friends
Hello,
I'm a new person here and I have a question about a family member. Hopefully, you can help and I will appreciate any and all answers.
If a man marries a JW gal and the JW gal cannot get her husband to convert (he has no interest in joining, but supports her beliefs), will the JW gal be "looked down upon" by her KH? Do you see problems in the future for this couple? There are no children (yet).
Thank you!!
hi cameo and welcome!
unfortunately yes she will be looked down on, at least for a while and it could cause long term problems
Welcome cameo.
The most obvious answer is - if she was a "good little JW" she would not have married outside the religion. She would have a)converted the guy first, or b)not even considered sharing a meal with an unbeliever.
If she married a non-JW, she's probably already "looked down on" by the hard-liners. Did she get married in a Kingdom Hall? If not, there is a stigma.
If she persists in doing all that is expected of the mainstream JW's, ie: putting in the hours door-to-door, attending and commenting at all the meetings, sucking up to the elders and their wives...she may gain the pity vote.
"Poor little sister, she's married to an unbeliever, isn't that sad? She tries so hard, and he just won't study or come with her to Memorial..."
Does that answer your question?
Wasa
this link may be of interest to you.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/69532/1.ashx
sorry bit new to this myself! if that doesn't work look under "relationships" it is the last but one post!
Hi cameo,
Actually JWs aren't suppose to marry out of the religion. She may even be disciplined... Unless there is new light, anyone may correct me please.
Bryan
Hi again,
I guess I forgot to say they were married (by a JP) BEFORE she got baptized. The husband goes with her to a meeting about every 3-4 months or so. She attends all the meetings, goes out on FS, etc. etc. Also, he just went with her to the memorial.
Thanks!
that puts her in a better position cameo, but was she an " unbaptized publisher" i.e. was she already going from door to door then they got married?
were they living together before her involvement with the witnesses?
it all makes a difference belive it or not!
Hi Pudd,
Yes, she was going door to door; working very hard to get "accepted" into the org, and yes, they were living together before they got married.
hi again cameo!
slight confusion, she could not have gone from door to door while living with a man she was not married to. so i thinking maybe they temperarily seperated? (excuse my spelling!)
her situation could be much worse. i would think she would get the sympathy vote, and do o.k. especialy as you said he supports her and goes to a few meetings.
it depends on the individuals in her congregation but i think she will be o.k!
wish her well, and yourself!
pudd
Unfortunatley for him, he will always be treated by her friends as a project.
He will forever ( until conversion ) be known to others in her "group" as the unbelieving husband
He will always be talked about within her circles as " hopefully one day he will be in the truth"
Yes, as long as she is a jw, there will be a gap between them that will never close unless he converts or she leaves. Unfortunatley this is the way it works within this religion.
