Sundays bloody Sundays

by DanTheMan 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  DanTheMan

  I posted a thread by a similar name a while back. I've found that not much has changed since then - I still am finding that often get into a funkybaddepressedanxious mood on Sundays.

  Is it the fact that I have to go to work the next day, to a job that I don't necessarily hate but don't necessarily love either? Where I will have to spend 40 hours (and often more) of my week with gossipy, sometimes rude coworkers who I would never spend time with by choice? Where demands will be made of me that I don't feel capable of fulfilling?

  I used to hate Sundays when I was a kid because it meant:

  1. going to church (Catholic mass), which meant dressing in clothes that I hated, going to a dark, windowless church filled with odd people, sitting through a boring service, and waiting forever afterwards while my parents talked with their friends, and treated me like I was an embarrassment to them. Also, in later years, when I was an altar boy, getting nervous and forgetting everything that I was supposed to be doing, to the point where the congregation was laughing at me.
  2. Knowing that I had to go back to school the next day.

  So maybe the negative assocations I developed with Sundays as a youth are hard-wired into my psyche.

  At any rate, I'm trying to come up a psychological trick to help me dispel the dark clouds of deep unease that always seem to hover over me on Sundays. Perhaps a new name is in order. "Funday", or "Saturday - part deux".

  Does anybody else get the Sunday blues? Have you found any good ways to deal with it?
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  xenawarrior

  (((Dan)))

  I've had that in the past too. Maybe you can find something fun to do on Sundays that you'll look forward to !!
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  little witch

  I used to dread Sunday's approach! Probobly for the same reasons you mentioned. Over the years I have changed my view. I realized that sunday is truly a gift. It is a day without demands on my time. I can fill it however I choose (usually with lazy content)lol.

  Saturdays became a day to catch up on neglected household chores like mowing, etc, and sundays I reserved for my own selfish relaxation. Try it! Be selfish with it and make it YOUR day. Protect it. Let it be a day of rest and relaxation, a gift to look forward to.
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  DanTheMan

  Xena,

  Hmmm...something fun...I'm trying to think of some ideas

  Littlewitch,

  Perhaps a more selfish attitude is in order! *sips freshly brewed coffee* mmmmm....I went crazy (by my lazy standards) doing housework last Sunday, and it did help.
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  Sassy

  I didn't hate Sundays but I hated the fact that both Saturday and Sunday (my only days off from work as an adult and in non summer months in school as a child), that I could never just sleep in... one had to be up for field service or Sunday meeting.. you could never just rest... and if you did, the guilt for doing so.........

  I LOVE SUNDAYS now.. cept the part that they can't be one more day long..
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  myauntfanny

  I always had this problem, just a general sense of doom and unease and depression on Sundays. It lasted through numerous jobs, and blissful unemployment as well, so I couldn't blame my job. I assumed it was because Sundays were a very bad day at home in my childhood, but knowing that never seemed to help. I got into Bach flower remedies and there is one for inexplicable depression (Mustard) and I took it and it worked. That was about eight years ago and I just don't have those kind of Sundays any more, ever.

  Rationalists please don't flame me. I know perfectly well it's not scientifically based. It's probably placebo effect. Or maybe I just coincidentally got better at that time. I don't care. It seemed to work, and that's good enough for me.
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  DanTheMan

  Sassy,
  
  Yeah, weekends must suck altogether for kids being raised in da troof. At least I only have psychological baggage from Sundays instead of for the whole weekend! I had 1 or 2 hours of religion on the weekend, compared to the what, 5 or 6 or more that JW kids have to participate in.

  aunt,

  a general sense of doom and unease and depression on Sundays.

  couldn't have described it better myself. Mustard eh? Even if it's a placebo effect, if it works, go with it!
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  Simon

  I used to hate Sundays too ... meeting in the morning, field service in the afternoon and then a demented mother ruining what's left of it by reminding you "school tomorrow!". Cow.

  Here in the UK practically every shop used to shut back then ... god, it was bloody awful.

  BTW: We have a bank-holiday tomorrow so I don't have to go into work ! Although I'll still be working But at least I can do it sitting in the garden
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  patio34

  Bach flower remedies and there is one for inexplicable depression (Mustard) and I took it and it worked ---My Aunt Fanny

  That sounds interesting. Never underestimate a placebo effect--it can cure cancer!!

  Do you have any more info on Bach flower remedies?

  Pat
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  DanTheMan

  OK, I'm over a friend's house and I'm in a pretty good mood now. I'm always posting about being depressed, probably gets old to some forum users. Thanks for your responses.