My experience with family members still "in" has not been good. They will not write back, if they see me at a family function, they will turn the other way. I finally got to a point where I figure there is no point. If they want to bury their head in the sand, not see concrete evidence directly in front of their face, there isn't anything I can do about it.
I Need Help On This One
by Elmer J. Fudd 13 Replies latest jw friends
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Mary
I would just drop her a line to ask how she's doing. Do not say anything negative about the Organization, just say that you were thinking of her and that you love her and would like her to let you know that she's okay.
I don't know if her husband has access to her email........he very easily could and if he reads your message, he might just delete it and not even tell her about it.
Good luck.
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myauntfanny
If you were close as two gnats in a navel (I'd like to have a whole list of those expressions) when you were kids, why not get in touch with her? I have relationship with my JW family on the basis that I just never ever mention the org, and it has been worth it. True, I have had to sit there patiently when they have witnessed to me, urrrggghh, but I overlook it because I love them. I understand how people who can't get along with a relative anyway might not want to bother. But I think that sometimes people who avoid their JW relatives just because they ARE JWs are actually helping enforce the idiot policy of ostracising unbelievers. And there's always the chance that if she ever starts having doubts, she might think of you as a person to reach out to.
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outoftheorg
HI ELMER!!!!
THE ISSUE YOU BRING UP, REGARDING FAMILY CONTACT AND THE WBTS INTERFERING, IS IN MY OPINION THE MOST DAMAGING AND PREVALENT SITUATION ALL EX JW'S HAVE TO FACE.
THE LOSS OF LOVE AND AFFECTION AND DESTRUCTION OF THE FAMILY. AN EVIL AND UNNATURAL CONDITION. INDUCED BY A PUBLISHING COMPANY.
IN MY OWN SITUATION, I FINALLY LEARNED THAT PURSUING THOSE WHO SHUNNED ME ONLY BROUGHT GRIEF, SADNESS AND ANGER INTO MY LIFE.
SO AFTER TRYING A FEW TIMES TO SHOW THEM LOVE AND AFFECTION, I QUIT PURSUING THEM.
MY HEART AND MY DOORS ARE ALWAYS OPEN TO THEM, BUT THEY MUST KNOCK AND SHOW ME THAT THEY LOVE ME AND ACCEPT ME AS A FAMILY MEMBER. I DON'T EVEN NEED AN APOLOGY. JUST DON'T HURT ME AGAIN.
I WISH YOU AND YOURS THE VERY BEST AND HOPE YOU FIND THE PEACE AND CONTENTENTMENT THAT HAS BEEN DISTURBED BY THE WBTS.
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