by Nosferatu 23 Replies latest social relationships
Girls HATE wimps
yes, there needs to be a clarification between a wimpy man and a nice man, an assertive man, and a jerk.
There are nice girls and wimpy girls, assertive girls and bitchy girls. It takes a while to find the right combination. As for me, I prefer a nice assertive guy.
basically that means that being a "nice" guy does not in any way make you less of a man
so there
Revised author's conclusions,
A Man Woman,
-Does not go through life walking on eggshells.
-Focuses on his her dreams.
-Does not apologize for his her testosterone hormones, for his her desires.
-Tries to always win in what he she does. (After childhood, there are real winners and losers in life.)
-Has deep convictions that allows him her to be a possible leader.
-Seeks to solve problems then to place blame.
-Sees failure as only a temporary set-back to the inevitable.
-Knows where he she is going in Life.
-Never loses his her passion, for that would be the death of his her soul.
-Never feels he she has to prove himself herself to anyone.
YOU are the MAN WOMAN! For if you don't STAND for something, you shall FALL for everything
Works for me.
What??? You mean there is not some vast gulf between what defines the ideal character of a "man" and "woman"???
But what will people go on about endlessly anymore?
Way to go Talesin.... you're The Man...... Err you're The Woman
This is a very interesting thread Nos. I guess, if I have to say what I want in a man it would be this: My equal.
Someone who is willing to take as much responsibility as me for the relationship.
Someone who can keep themselves occupied with a hobby and not be moping around the house or whining for something to do, when I'm busy.
Someone who will be as eager to do fun things as me and get involved in the preparations for those fun things.
Someone who can see that the house needs attention, just as I do, and will not sit around waiting for me to either clean it or ask him to pitch in to help.
Someone who cares as much as I do and is as attentive as I am about the other person's feelings and thoughts...........
Someone who is a responsible adult, has a good head on their shoulders.
Someone who has a sense of humor.
Someone who loves art, music, literature, good food, good sex, moderate drinking, a lovely home, animals, good, meaningful conversation.
Yes, I want a male me. I have learned to love me so much, and admire me so much, that I want someone with all my qualities!
Am I making any sense? LOL! I guess that spending twenty years having to take the role of head in a JW household made wimps anathema to me. I don't want to be some man's mommy, and I certainly don't want him to be my daddy. But, I want someone who will care for me, as I care for him, that's all.
Terri
Holy crap! This post sat all day without any responses. I thought it was going to fizzle away!
Are you sure you read this after leaving the borg?
I'm very sure. I know the borg has somewhat of a similar view, but the thing that really makes the borg's view invalid, is that they teach men to be afraid of their natural desires, be scared of the opposite sex, and be scared of their male member. This "article" (along with many others) help me put things in perspective. I was able to find that balance between nice guy and jerk, and it's done wonders for me!
What if it turns out the author doesn't know jack shit about being a man?
This "article" was taken from another discussion forum that I used to frequent. I've had many online conversations with Pook over a span of two years, and he is quite knowledgeable when it comes to the opposite sex. Some of the things he writes I don't get (such as embracing your testosterone, and letting it guide you). We both have developed very similar views on sex. I don't in any way deny Pook's abilities, since I've tried things his way, and they work. Some of his posts were too long for me to read since my attention span isn't very good.
Much of that sounds like it came from a 1950s Watchtower - in particular the part likening women to cows. Where have we heard that before?
I should mention that this came from a message board where 98% of the members are male. I only saw this as a humorous poke at how the average male views the opposite sex.
"If you want to get a really great girl [or boy]...start working on your character and self-control--(not b/c it's you, but b/c those two things are REALLY uncommon these days)--because a great girl [or boy] is one who's been working on that already and she'll [he'll] recognize it in you.
A Man [or Woman] has character and deep convictions. He [She] has PASSION in life about something. It is this passion that transforms his [her] life, gives him [her] confidence, and gives him [her] joy. It is this PASSION that will give you that right mindset for you have goals and dreams that go beyond chicks [boys].
Remember, if you cannot command respect, you cannot attract love. If you cannot be respected, women [men] will ignore you and/or abuse you."
Great advice for everyone, hence my additions in brackets.
And as far as women gossiping-in the town I just moved from, you couldn't even find a seat at the local restaurant in the morning, because all the men gather there every morning to have coffee and gossip-er "talk"
Well, Nos, I personally wouldn't date Pook (if I were 20 years younger, single, and he showed any interest me) because he doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for women, but I think he has some points. I had a boyfriend once who was a Nice Guy and just like a woman, and he WAS really nice. Sensitive and sweet and cried his eyes out when we saw Philadelphia. And, it was icky. I felt really guilty for not wanting to continue the relationship, because I had thought that was what I wanted. But when I got it, I didn't. (It's okay, I didn't wreck him, he dumped me because I wasn't classy enough for his family. Go figure.)
Danny sez:Women are biologically superior to menfolk,and equals by other standards YES! Biologically superior.(1) women have a longer life span then men. (2) women have the protective effects of their primary female hormone estrogen,which (slightly) inhibits hardening of the arteries and heart disease.(3) Women have a greater organ redundancy then men because they have extra capacity for reproduction.(4) Baby girls are more intelligent than boys up to one year,because testosterone in the baby boy(slightly) inhibits brain development.(5) You ain't gonna like this,but women outlive men in a famine because women have more stored fat than men.(6) Last but not least women are sugar and spice and everything nice. My personal experience has been that I've been equally abused (big time) by both the sexes.Now that i reject the Bible as the word of God,I can tell St. Paul to go to hell.Paul was very hard on women i think he was unfair and I reject the 'headship' dogma. Last but not least,33 years of exposure to the Jehovah's Witnesses and my finding is that the compelling force in the WT$ is The 3p's Power Prestige and P***X. I am a man and I just stood my ground on my convictions.
