Tina:
Are you prepared to be df'd or forcibly da'd, with the resulting consequences?
If you are, then go for it and blast 'em.
If not, then I can think of no reason whatsoever why you would wish to have this meeting. The objectives of these people are fairly straight-forward: either get you back in, or control damage by preventing you interacting with other rank and file, including family. In any meeting, once it becomes clear to them that you are not going back, they will do whatever necessary to provoke you into giving them grounds to df you.
And Tina luv, while you have amply demonstrated many beautiful qualities, a cool and restrained nature is not one of them . The liklihood is that they will get the ammo they need to seal you off.
The WT likes to use the phrase "theocratic warfare." And war it is. In war, you do not allow yourself to be drawn into a battle which restricts your room to manouever (sp?).
Expatbrit