by Obviously Secret 11 Replies latest jw friends
How are you guys' views on first loves? Are they always supposed to end up heart breaking just to teach you a natural lesson that always seems to happen. Or can you reall find the right person the first time?
I hear most people saying that first loves will always go astray, however, I was just wondering. Any ideas?
hi Secret,
I was married to my first love for over 20years. So not all go astray.
however there can always be a nagging doubt about settling down so soon with your first love
wishing you well
I have had many first loves and most are still strong.
I love my father very much, (first man I ever loved).
I love my daughter more than myself, (first and only living child).
I still love my first dog, (dead long years past but I still have dreams about her).
I loved my first car, (late 60's Barracuda and wish I still had it).
Now as for the ladies...I love them all...I just don't want to be around all them though!
Maverick
I was married to my first love for over 20years
On Friday, I'll be married 21 years to my first love.
Depends on what you mean by "first love". The first one you had sex with, or the first one you were deeply infatuated with? It took me 3 years to get over the ladder. It was definately a lesson learned in life.
somehow it is always the first love ... (the one you need at the time)
I think people have a problem knowing if its real love or not.
Some people don't want a seriouis relationship and it can make that person not to let go of their emotions, which adds to the problem. Talking of experience.
On Friday, I'll be married 21 years to my first love.
Why are all the good men taken!?!?!?!?
The Heartbroken fellow said:
Are they always supposed to end up heart breaking just to teach you a natural lesson that always seems to happen
(Checking rulebook) NO
As I consider some of the horror shows I was engaged to and avoided before marrying a wonderful woman.......
They say that children are your TRUE love.
For me, I had dated people and been engaged before I found what I thought was my First Love. He was the "worldly" guy I started dating as I was leaving. It was such an intense relationship. We would go up to the mountains and talk till late into the early morning hours. I felt like I had finally found that ONE person who understood every thought I had, and vise versa. I lost my virginity to him. And for a time I was completely over-whelmed by the feelings I had with him.
In retrospect though, as I got older and moved on, I realized that I was just in an intense infatuation. It was hard to get over him I'll admit. The next couple of people I dated I Did compare them to him and no one seemed to compare. We attempted to reconcile about a year later, but I realized it wasnt him that I loved, but the that feeling. So looking back on things, settling down with him would have been a HUGE mistake. I'm glad things worked out the way they did between us, and I dont hold any grudges, I have a nostalgic soft place in my heart for him, and probably always will. Not that I would ever want to attempt another relationship with him, but just because it was a big part of a tumultuous time in my life.
