A visit with my mom.....suggestions?

desib77

My hubby and I had my mom over last Sat. and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.

Now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on Friday while I'm in town. Now, I know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if I love Jehovah and tell me that if I do I should obey his commands.......and so on....and I will probably leave her feeling worthless.

I don't want to miss out on spending time with her because I really love my mother....but on the other hand I don't want to leave her depressed...

Any suggestions? (Keep in mind that my mother is as brainwashed as they come)

Desi

truthseeker1

if she brings it up, just ask her to just enjoy each other's time and not get bogged down with religion. You love her and want to spend time with her.

kls

desib, let her know before you meet that you want a nice chat and let her know that you love her but ask that she not bring up anything related to religion. You will probably have to be firm but nice. If in fact she does start talking about jws ,tell her " mom not now let's have a nice time together".

desib77

if she brings it up, just ask her to just enjoy each other's time and not get bogged down with religion. You love her and want to spend time with her.

We've had that conversation before. She says she doesn't try to stop me from talking to her about what I want so I shouldn't try to stop her.....it ended up with me feeling guilty as usual.

truthseeker1

If your discussions about religion usually end in an argument, then remind her of that and ask her please do not want to talk about something that will probably end in an argument.

desib77

If in fact she does start talking about jws ,tell her " mom not now let's have a nice time together".

I've told her this before, too....she says "but I love you and want you to be with me in paradise"...and she looks sad like she is going to cry and then I feel bad for having hurt her and usually I'm the one who starts to cry....

I'm really not good with this.

kls

desib, you are going to have to learn to get stronger and not feel guilt, she knows how to push your buttons .

Valis

.....it ended up with me feeling guilty as usual.

well, finish your coke and politely excuse yourself if she starts in. That way she can talk about whatever she wants...Jehovah will be there to listen to her..

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

Stefanie

Or you could say that you dont have much time, and you would like to use that time catching up with her instead of talking about things you have already heard. If she offers you the mags, tell her you already have them.

desib77

desib, you are going to have to learn to get stronger and not feel guilt, she knows how to push your buttons .

I know...you're right....It is difficult for me because I hate to feel like I'm hurting her....but it is something that I will have to work on.

A visit with my mom.....suggestions?

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