That's new testament ... copied from other beliefs. I was refering to the old testament which was generally full of xenophobic clap-trap and hate-speach.
What's Your Opinion Regarding Spanking A Child?
by minimus 95 Replies latest jw friends
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Princess
My thoughts on spanking have changed as my children get older. I rarely spank anymore as I can see the anger and resentment in my son's eyes. It used to work very well with him, he practically asked for it and calmed right down after a spanking. Now I can see that he is very upset by the dominance so I just take away privileges. More or less according to what he has done...that's why Game Boys were invented, so we can take them away.
My daughter rarely gets any kind of spankings either. Last week I spanked her as it was the only way to get her to open her eyes and see that her behavior was wrong. Most of the time, taking away her 1 hour of TV a day works well.
It's different with different kids. Kids respond to different means of discipline. What works for your best friend's kids won't necessarily work for yours. A time out is pointless with my kids.
Rachel
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Doubtfully Yours
In a public place, a store or a restaurant, it's very easy to differentiate the children that get spanked when they misbehave from the ones that don't.
I've wanted to go and smack the parents at times for letting their children carry on in such a horrible way!
There are times when you cannot reason with children or young teenagers for that matter; parents must show them who's boss and what they're going to do when.
My nieces and nephews are a delight to have in public. They have good manners and behave nicely. Believe me, they haven't gotten such good manners and behavior by silly timeouts, or counting 'til whatever number, or silly stuff like taking TV/games away or grounding them. NOPE!, but by good spankings when they got out of rule! The parents get many compliments and everybody loves to have them around because they're well-behaved children.
The Bible is definitely right on this one!
DY
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Angharad
Believe me, they haven't gotten such good manners and behavior by silly timeouts, or counting 'til whatever number, or silly stuff like taking TV/games away or grounding them. NOPE!, but by good spankings when they got out of rule!
Maybe in their case, but different things work with different kids. Timeouts and taking away things works with lots of kids.
The ones who never received physical discipline were the ones that were disrespectful to peers and those in charge
Just because someone chooses not to smack their child does not mean they will end up being disrespectful or unruly, some will some wont, just as some children that were smacked will also.
The main thing a child needs is consistancy in discipline and they need to know what is and isnt acceptable and why. They learn this through talking and reasoning.
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lazyslob
It´s illegal here. It was the only thing that did work on me though;)
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Simon
In a public place, a store or a restaurant, it's very easy to differentiate the children that get spanked when they misbehave from the ones that don't.
I've wanted to go and smack the parents at times for letting their children carry on in such a horrible way!
You're joking right?
The parents who have kids running amok outside the home are usually the ones that rely on physical violence to control them. When they can't do that because they are out in public ... well, they have no power and that is the result.
Reasoning with them can be harder and take more time but it is ALWAYS better IMO
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Xena
I spanked my daughter before she was old enough to reason with. When you see a little hand headed where it ought not a tap on it gets the thought across sufficiently. She is 9 now and extremely reasonable so spanking never even enters into the equation. I constantly get compliments on how well behaved she is so I guess we must be doing something right. lol and fearful would not be a word used to describe her!
I completely agree with the different things work for different kids though....you just have to figure out what works for you.
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drwtsn32
I'm with Angharad on this one, Doubtfully Yours. The bratty children are usually ones that aren't being disciplined well. It has nothing to do with spanking per se. Like I mentioned in my previous post, I know a few couples that do not spank their children. They are disciplined though. And the kids are very well adjusted.
I hope this technique works on our future kids as spanking just seems barbaric. I realize it may not work on everyone.
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Simon
The ones who never received physical discipline were the ones that were disrespectful to peers and those in charge
Actually, most research suggests that kids from violent backgrounds and those who use physical discipline are more likely to turn to crime and be less well behaved, bully others etc...
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Soledad
I wouldn't spank my child unless he/she was about to do something really dangerous--some kids are really stubborn and will insist on sticking metal objects into an outlet or on playing around the stove. other than that, I think that when a kid does something wrong, taking away something that they really love would work. Spanking makes the child hate you. my mother used to hit me until I bled. I hate her for that.