Before you had the baby it was just him and you , now for a year there is a third person that take's your time and attention, you are tired and your first priority is the baby. Believe it or not your husband may actually be jealous of the attention he was once getting and now it goes to the baby. It took my husband a year after the birth of my first to admit he was jealous of the baby and the attention i gave her. I thought i was the only one with this odd problem but after my daughter gave birth her husband felt the same way. I am not sure if this is your case but it could be. Just a thought.
First Year Blues
by MelbaToast 14 Replies latest social family
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kls
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Lehaa
Hi Melba,
Know how you feel. Communication will help a lot, and maybe you do need to talk to you doctor about going back on your meds.
Talk to your hubbie calmly about how you feel, let him know that you love him dearly but it's exhausting you to have to constantly reafirm this. I'm not saying never do it, but all the time zaps a lot of you. If you feel you need counseling then go for it, even if you hubbie wont go it would help you to go alone, they are great at looking at things from a diferent angle.
It takes a while for two people to get used to having a little one in the house. It will get easier as your precious little girl gets bigger, hang in there it will get easier.
Love your baby she's adorable.
Lehaa.
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Double Edge
It takes a while for two people to get used to having a little one in the house. It will get easier as your precious little girl gets bigger, hang in there it will get easier.
Ain't that the truth! On top of everything, you are in the middle of the "always tired" phase. When your little "cutie" starts walking and talking, not only will your husband feel more included, but it will put a little more "fun" into your household scenerio.
Your situation is something a lot of people could only hope for - your relationship just needs a little "tweeking". Dr. Phil also has a pretty good book on relationships.
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MelbaToast
Thanks guys....I really love this board!
guess Ill have to post more to up my status, Im trying but so many time the things Im thinking have already been said by someone else, I dont want to be a myna bird :)
Havent talked to hubby yet, but our moods change like the wind (we're both geminis) and right now I am on break from school so its relaxing just hanging out and chilling, we rented scary movie 3 last night and just hung out togeth, sometimes its just the little things that makes marriage worthwhile...I never thought Id feel like that, but we have the pure caring for each other (we're best friends) that is hard to find in a mate :)
So much for leading my "life of sin"...Im married and have a kid, so all em hippo-crites at the KH can kiss it :) And I still love God (after many years of soul-searching after the cult)
*Melba gives big razzberries and flips off the old congo" Nahnahnahnahnah!!!!
"Go Forward and Be Miserable, All You Life-Suckers"
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frenchbabyface
Hum ... MelbaToast ... it seems that you feel way better already !!!