Spoiled Children....

by desib77 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • desib77
    desib77

    I can't believe people actually pay this much for a birthday party. Spoil System FAO Schwarz has a birthday party to impress jaded juveniles -- and parents pay the price.

    By Laurie Sandell

    M ock fashion shows held in beauty salons, private carnivals complete with merry-go-rounds -- when their children's birthdays roll around, affluent New Yorkers scramble to keep up with the Trumps, not the Joneses. Indeed, there aren't many stunts left that can raise the heart rates of the city's been-there-done-that little darlings -- but FAO Schwarz has come up with a novel way of parting pampering parents from their cash.

    At $17,500, the Fifth Avenue Ultimate Sleepover Adventure, a wildly lavish in-store slumber party, is available to only a select clientele (the first one went for $26,000 at a February charity auction). Three more have since been sold. Chuck Santoro is the relentlessly cheerful former toy soldier behind the bash; he and Liz Nagengast, his partner in In Tandem Productions, produce the parties with FAO Schwarz. Even a job that requires him to spend his days auditioning Alices-in-Wonderland has its headaches, Santoro confides. "This morning, I got a call from Mother Goose saying, 'I can't come in,' " he sighs, looking up at the ceiling of his tiny subterranean office. "I tell them, 'You're getting paid to play with toys. This isn't Bosnia!' "

    To say the least. On a typical night, fifteen kids ranging in age from 7 to 12 arrive at the door from tony Westchester suburbs or upper Manhattan; past campers include the son of a rock star and the daughter of a multimillionaire concert promoter. Many have cell phones, and some have asked to bring laptops. Each child is handed a survival kit -- a backpack crammed with essentials like interactive talking watches. Under the watchful eyes of store security cameras, they're turned loose in the FAO aisles to test robots and remote-control vehicles, refresh their manicures, and scavenge for wooden dinosaur bones.

    After a midnight treasure hunt, campers bed down in the Star Wars room to watch the DVD movie of their choice on four giant screens. (Kids often complain about cell-phone reception in the Star Wars room, but it's better than sleeping in the life-size dollhouse, where the lights won't dim all the way.) In the morning, $100 gift certificates are handed out for a last-minute spree -- pocket change for these kids: When the 12-year-old heir to a sporting-goods fortune arrived at the register with more than $300 worth of merchandise, he quickly declared, "I brought my own money!"

    There is only the occasional grumble, says Santoro -- like that heard from the son of a supermodel, who at one party surveyed the morning spread of bagels and cream cheese with disgust: "No Nova?"

  • SheilaM
    SheilaM

    Spoiled children...maybe Stupid parents ....YES

  • desib77
    desib77

    Spoiled children...maybe Stupid parents ....YES
    I would have to agree with that. They don't even realize what kind of people their children are going to grow up to be.

  • franklin J
    franklin J

    Children, like grownups; grow to reflect the environment they are in...and money is RELETIVE.

    I personally think it is outrageous to spend $17,000 for a childs birthday party.

    However my wife and I just attended a good friends sweet 16 party for their daughter ( so I guess that is a birthday of sorts) where they spent at least that sum. They have the money to do it . Their daughter is not spoiled; they live reletive to the financial means they have.

    No one should be ashamed of the financial wealth they have .That is a fallacy of Jehovahs Witnesses teachings.....

    The bottom line is ....why be humble and subserviant when you CAN HAVE EVERYTHING....

  • Xena
    Xena

    I don't think giving your kids stuff is what spoils them....although this does sound excessive. I think it's when you throw stuff at them instead of spending time with them and teaching them manners and that to get things requires work.

    I've seen spoiled and/or bratty kids on both ends of the money spectrum.

  • desib77
    desib77
    I've seen spoiled and/or bratty kids on both ends of the money spectrum.

    I agree. Children from lower income families can also be spoiled. However, I tend to think that children who are given things constantly are most likely to not appreciate them.

    I don't think children who are between 7-12 years old should be worried about their cell phone or their laptop.....and any child carrying $300 or more as pocket change is most likely spoiled. Just my opinion.

  • GentlyFeral
    GentlyFeral

    Overheard at work, a few months back: some teenaged daughter of the supperrich was given a three-thousand-dollar Prada purse by her mommy -- just because "she'd had a bad day".

    The girl's response? "Mom! Take this back to the store and give the money to charity!"

    Spoiled is as spoiled does, of course.

    GentlyFeral

  • desib77
    desib77
    Overheard at work, a few months back: some teenaged daughter of the supperrich was given a three-thousand-dollar Prada purse by her mommy -- just because "she'd had a bad day".

    The girl's response? "Mom! Take this back to the store and give the money to charity!"

    I'm not saying that all wealthy children are spoiled. But honestly, how often does something like this actually happen?

  • BeautifulGarbage
    BeautifulGarbage
    I agree. Children from lower income families can also be spoiled. However, I tend to think that children who are given things constantly are most likely to not appreciate them.

    Well, that can be true for adults, also. Most of us don't think anything of turning on the faucet and expecting CLEAN water to flow. We whine when the supermarket shelves on not stocked to the brim, or if we don't get good serivce. Many people on this planet cannot even dream of such things. I bet not many Americans stop to appreciate just how fortunate they are.

    How many of us (especially us women) have way more pairs of shoes than we would possibly would ever NEED? We have so much stuff that we rent storage units, have garage sales, donate junk to charity,and now, even have TV shows telling us how to organize, and get rid of, all of our excess stuff.

    Now, I understand the point of this thread. I know of a couple of families with kids that, in my opinion, over indulge their children. I have a friend whose house looks like a branch of ToyRUs. Toys everywhere. He has one son and this child is not spoiled. He has tons of toys, but is not a brat. Actually, I feel sort of sad for him, and I have expressed this to his Dad. I don't think kids should get everything they want. If finances allow, they should get something once in a while. Or, earn the money to purchase it themselves. I can remember, as a kid, wanting some toy, or some whachamacallit. Of course, being JWs I didn't have the option of getting it on my birthday, or Xmas. But, when I did get something I so desperately wanted, I can still remember the THRILL I felt at receiving. it. And that is why I feel sad for my friend's son, he will never know what that thrill feels like.

    I agree with the "money is relative" quote. I feel very fortunate in my circumstances. We're middle class, own our home, and have a few nice things. However, to someone who has "more means" we live quite modestly and don't have much (like a plasma TV and a Hummer).

    I suppose my point is, before we criticize, we need to take a look in the mirror first.

  • desib77
    desib77
    I suppose my point is, before we criticize, we need to take a look in the mirror first.

    I'm not criticizing anyone. In fact, I don't even have children so it certainly wouldn't be my place. However, without generalizing that all children who are given what they want are spoiled I have just pointed out that some of them if not most of them are.

    Also, if you'll notice the story I started the thread on wasn't about a child who has too many toys or is allowed to do whatever they want. Rather, it was about parents who spend $17,500 - $26,000 on one birthday party. In my opinion this is excessive.

    I didn't say anything about adults not being spoiled. I know I am. I probably do have too many shoes....but that really wasn't the point. I wouldn't, even for myself or my husband, ever spend nearly $20,000 on any sort of party.

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