Do you think this will affect your daughters decisions in doing things with the congregation again or is it mainly about her mother?
Shotgun, I don't know if I understand the question, but the girls really don't want to have anything to do with meetings, field service or study. With the exception of one of my daughters, they all have "worldly" friends now and do not associate with JW's unless they are visiting their mother and some JW's come over. There mother has had no success in laying down the law and making them go to the meetings whent they are visiting; the girls simply refuse to go.
Nancy, the middle child, has a best friend whose parents make her go to the KH, but she does not like going and secretly smokes cigs and does "rebellious" things. Right now, they are like peas and carrots and I trust her a damn site more than the other JW kids, but I am afraid that Nancy might one day be betrayed by her friend in some way when push comes to shove. It seems to be the nature of young JW kids who are struggling with the pressure of baptism and to stay in the org from their parents. Nancy's friend might one day give her the ultimatum; that she is going back to serve Jehovah and if Nancy does not want to, then they cannot associate. When I was a teen, I had a "friend" that did the same to me, and I have seen it happen again and again. Thus the learning of hypocrisy and self-righteousness is complete when that happens.
The JW's are still indirectly in my life through my kids' mother. It filters in and it is intolerable. I can honestly say that "Satan's attacks" have never come from outside the org, in fact, I have never once experienced the kind of predjudice and persecution the Society describes in their publications and at the meetings from worldly people, governments or churches as a result of being a JW. The only predjudice, attacks or persecution I have ever suffered has come from the JW's for once believing and now disagreeing with them. They are vindictive and more satan-like than any worldly folks I have ever dealt with. I want them out of my life, out of my kids' life, and I accept that I cannot really rest and have any peace until that happens. This is about their mother right now. She is the main source of persecution and harrassment, pressure, that is. She has to be slapped down and I am fed up with her shit and I am not stopping til she stops her insanity and leaves the kids alone with the damn religion. I am really pissed now.
Corvin