How do you handle JWs interacting with your children? (page 3)

Lady Lee

Avengers

Is that a real cover?

if it is OMG

I was so upset when I was DFed. I could handle me being shunned but my little girls were shunned. And the really stupid thing about that is that they chose to live with their father when we got separated and they continued to be good little witnesses going to meetings and on service with their father. But all their friends turned on them.

Just an aside here - they stayed with their father for a year and then they got themselves a lawyer - at 13 and 9 yrs old - to apply for a change in the custody. They got tired of the abuse from their father and the shunning in the cong towards them.

Just think if he hadn't physically and emotionally abused them and if the cong had supported them instead of shunning them they could still be witnesses. Thanks heavens for a cult gone really wrong - so wrong even little kids could see it

Yes Nos protect your children at all costs

XQsThaiPoes

You posted the 1988 article says it right ther. Also they changed the faq and adopted a firmer stance, they also say witness obey the command to abstain from blood which is not true. On a funny note I heard a recording of a circuit talk today discribing a disfellowshiped family member as thrusting their male member into the nose of God using a scripture in jerimiah. It was the most vulgar thing I have ever heard. I guess it is upbuilding to people that ummm.... ummm... hmmm... I dont know any group that would actually benifit from the talk I wish I knew when it was recorded.

here is the 2002 update in the km If you are in the immediate family or home there is not requirement to shun a person. The faq is interesting but odd at the same time.

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km 8/02 p. 4 Display Christian Loyalty When a Relative Is Disfellowshipped ***

The situation is different if the disfellowshipped or disassociated one is a relative living outside the immediate family circle and home,

Iforget

XQ,

I don't know you personally but you have made many comments here that irritate me. First you have claimed to still be a witness. Why are you here then?

Secondly I lived a life of HELL being raised to believe that everyone was bad. If I didn't do what was told I would die forever. These are NOT loving teachings. They teach FEAR. NOT LOVE. Fear is the motivating factor in the JW. I still hold dear some moral principles that I was taught. Those are taught in most every singly family I know. JW or not.

My son will not be exposed to hate and fear. Simple. You can throw stones all you want but apparently you don't have a child.

Jahna

I have to say, yes, some people will shun family members to the max, and others, well won?t. In my own case my disfellowshipped sister and myself work in the family business (I am not disfellowshipped, yet I should be. Get my meaning.) I must admit that for awhile the relationship between my parents and my sister was cool, though now over the years it has warmed up a lot. Neither of my parents or my Grandmother has ever been on reproof or threatened with disfellowshipping for the contact. Further, the elders do know about it, they drop by the office quite a bit. (Yes they keep their own distance but for the most part say a warm hello.)

I feel strongly that if your family that are in the truth, (Grand parents especially) are favorable towards not preaching ect then having that family contact is very important for your children. Just because someone is a Witness doesn?t always mean they are cut from the same cloth as the fanatics, which BTW exist in any organization, not just the Witnesses.

Only you as the parent can judge how close you want ANYONE to get with you children. Base it on individual case by case, not on blanket statements.

Jahna

SheilaM

IF THEY COME NEAR MY GRANDBABY I WILL TEAR THEM LIMB FROM LIMB

franklin J

this is an interesting post,

I have explained my history to my children and they pity me for never having xmas or birthdays. The older child is 13 and she has developed her own opinion of religion ( including the JWs; through my experiences) She has been exposed to the Catholic church through her mother and although is not instructed in Catholicism, has developed her own opinion of them also. I encourage her to examine the beliefs and express her views.

I encourage her to ask question of any faith; and so far; she can carry her own conversations with anyone concerning religion. I have explained to her that such discussions with JWs will always find her "wrong" and them "right"; a result of their religious mindset. She seems to enjoy the banter for purely acedemic reasons.

My only instruction to her is to be very careful what she takes seriously about religion.

MegaDude

XQ is a troll, plain and simple.

gypsywildone

We purposely distanced our daughter from Grandma JW. We didn't want her exposed at a young age to ugly pictures & hateful speech. We didn't want her guilted into trying to please Grandma JW. Now, she is a strong, independant young woman with a good BS detector & she is able to critically think & reason. What would have been the point? Once Grandma JW realized the kid couldn't be converted & had little tolerance for the JW doctrine, Grandma would have dropped her anyway.

Believe me the kid was very opinionated from a young age & would have told my mother about herself had she tried to preach that shit. What is really the need tor conditional friends or relatives?

Devils Advocate

Gypsy --

You couldn't be more right! Conditional Love is like artifcial sweetner. It might taste good for a moment or two but there's that god-awful aftertaste that just won't go away.

MerryMagdalene

Ouch!

This is a huge issue for me right now. Just got a letter from my wonderful, loving, heartbroken JW (of 62 years) mom informing me that the time has come (I was DFed several years ago, probably close to 8 now) that she will no longer have any more personal contact with me since my daughter is now old enough, in Grammy's eyes, to stay with her (minus me) for longer and longer periods of time. She dearly wants me to start bringing the little one to Sunday meetings and dropping her off for visits.

So I just finished writing the hardest letter of my life telling her why I will not be bringing my 3 year-old to meetings nor to stay at Grammy's house. But I did assure her that when my baby has reached the age of being able to question and reason logically on such matters, she will be free to go to meetings if she so chooses and will also be introduced to the basics of ALL the religions of which I am aware. Until then I will be raising her as simply, naturally, intelligently, and lovingly as I can. And I made sure to tell her that she is always welcome to call, write, or come see my daughter at my house ANY time.

I love my mom but my daughter's well-being comes first!!!

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