michelle,
All of these reasonings your are using serve only to justify the cruelty of Jehover and appear nowhere in the bible. Basically they were invented by people like yourself who could find no other way to justify the contradiction of Jehover being a "loving" god in comparison to his behavior.
Nowhere does the bible say that god meant to "hold the hand" of a woman in childbirth to prevent pain. The bible does say that god inflicted the pain on a woman as a punishment for defying him. I can't think of a single act of vengeance upon anyone committed by Satan.
Gen. 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children..."