a woman's right to choose.....

by peaceloveharmony 44 Replies latest jw friends

  • Yerusalyim
    Yerusalyim

    Jan, the sceince I've read says that 1st Trimester babies DO indeed feel pain. Muttled science so lets err on the side of caution. Pro-Life and Pro-Abortion are no more childish than PRO-CHOICE and ANTI-ABORITON.

    Your first statement made NO sense to me at all.

    The concern is not only with Pain for the baby but about proper moral choices. That a baby is in the womb or out of it shouldn't matter, Genetically, what is inside the mother is human, it meets the criteria for "life" it is a HUMAN LIFE, Why not push for more sex education and responsible sex and less abortion on demand, which only encourages more irresponsible sex in society. I have all the respect in the world for a gal who got raped or whose life is endangered by the pregnancy. This is clearly a matter between her and GOD. WHat I oppose is abortion on demand that holds human life as disposable. Partial Birth abortion, for want of a few inches and a few seconds a baby COMPLETELY outside the mother, and there is NO MEDICAL REASON for the procedure. I call that cold blooded murder.

    YERUSALYIM
    God is truth, and light his shadow.

    Plato

  • open_mind
    open_mind
    Why not push for more sex education and responsible sex and less abortion on demand, which only encourages more irresponsible sex in society.

    It seems that we all want this..........

  • JanH
    JanH

    Yeru,

    Jan, the sceince I've read says that 1st Trimester babies DO indeed feel pain.


    I suggest you post references. Otherwise, I will just ask you to read the findings of fact in the Roe vs Wade judgment. It covers the issues pretty well.

    Muttled science so lets err on the side of caution.


    And religion hasn't? You believe in certain ideas because you have read in a book that some god said so to a man who may have lived 2-3000 years ago. That is well and dandy for you, but having those ideas made into law to dictate the actions of others is absolutely bizarre.

    To err on the side of caution should mean leave the decision to the mother, not you, and not the state.

    Why does "err on the side of caution" have to mean that the woman should go back into the chains of religionists? We already agree that the woman is a human life, but for some reason religionists don't seem to attribute so much value to it.

    With no real brain there is of course no thought, and no thought means no pain. That should be pretty obvious.

    Pro-Life and Pro-Abortion are no more childish than PRO-CHOICE and ANTI-ABORITON.
    As I explained, this is what it is about. "Pro-lifer" is a term that could just as well refer to vegans or oppinents of capital punishment. It is essentially meaningless, and just chosen for PR reasons. You are anti-abortion, and should stand up to that. The term pro-choice is neither a very good one, as it is too generic. Pro-abortion-choice would perhaps be more fitting, and accurate, but it is certainly accurate on the context of the abortion debate.
    Your first statement made NO sense to me at all.
    LOL.
    The concern is not only with Pain for the baby but about proper moral choices. That a baby is in the womb or out of it shouldn't matter, Genetically, what is inside the mother is human, it meets the criteria for "life" it is a HUMAN LIFE,
    Of course, this is what it is really about. Pushing old anti-sex laws (labelled, oddly, "moral") to take us back to the old testament. Most traditional sex regulations were put in place to control women in the first place, so you follow up in good tradition.

    How can you, btw, talk about "proper moral choices", when your whole idea is that people should not be given moral choice? You want to dictate what women should do under threats of legal sanctions. That is not proper, not moral, and it is certainly not a choice.

    Why not push for more sex education and responsible sex and less abortion on demand, which only encourages more irresponsible sex in society.
    Again, you demonstrate your true colors. You want to restrict abortion to control people's sexuality, again because you believe some ghost in the sky don't like that people fuck without having a proper paper.
    I have all the respect in the world for a gal who got raped or whose life is endangered by the pregnancy. This is clearly a matter between her and GOD.

    Well, then you just demonstarted that you DON'T think the fetus is a life like a child is after birth. I doubt you would accept killing a newborn child because it was conceived through rape. You don't really believe your own arguments. If the early fetus is just as much a human being as a child, then it must be totally irrelavant whether the pregnancy was caused by a rape.

    Since we already agree that the concern for a woman is more important than the concern for an unborn fetus, the question is just who we want to make the decisions.

    WHat I oppose is abortion on demand that holds human life as disposable.

    What you want is to control people's sexuality. It seems to be the core issue of Christianity. This god of yours is still obsessed with the sex lives of human beings, so many years after he wanted to collect baby foreskins.

    Sure, it would be great if nobody had any sex that resulted in unwanted pregnancies, and all children were born into teh care of able parents. Alas, this is a pipedream. We have to deal with reality, Yeru. And reality is that lots of people will make stupid decisions when it comes to many issues, and sex in particular.

    Better sex education, which is strongly opposed by most of your fellow religionists, is a key to improve the situation (and, FYI, "abstinence" is not a form of sex). But it will never be perfect. If your concern was really the wellbeing of humans, you would support not only contraceptives, but also the use of abortion pills that works on a tiny lump of cells that have no sentient feelings whatsoever, instead of waiting until we have to deal with the ethical problems of late abortions.

    - Jan
    --
    Faith, n. Belief without evidence in what is told by one who speaks without knowledge, of things without parallel. [Ambrose Bierce, The Devil´s Dictionary, 1911]

  • peaceloveharmony
    peaceloveharmony

    hey everyone, thanks for replying and for keeping it civil. i just have a few things to say.

    open_mind, you asked:

    Have any of you ever been involved directy with an abortion? I know it is personal, but it seems so many of you have strong convictions on this subject.

    i have never had an abortion but i think i can still have strong convictions regarding my RIGHT to CHOOSE. since i have sex, i run the risk of getting pregnant, even though i am responsible and use birth control, i still *could* get pregnant. since i am a woman, if i do get pregnant, i know ultimately that it will be ME taking care of the kid. the father can bail at anytime (as in the case of two of my good friends but that's another story).
    yeru used the word "pro-abortion" which i abhor, i am not pro-abortion, i am PRO-CHOICE. which means to me, that every woman has the RIGHT to CHOOSE. for me, the abortion issue goes way beyond what is moral, to me it's the fact that YOU can't tell ME what to do with MY body. which then, brings up the exchange between Yeru and JanH:
    yeru:
    I FULLY beleive a woman has a right to choose when it involves her own body. The problem with the abortion issue it that it also involves the body of the baby.

    jan:
    Sure, an embryo has the potential to become human, but so has a sperm or egg cell. Such an embryo has no capacity for thought, thinking, planning, feelings or pain. Its mother certainly has.

    so now it gets messy....when does an embroyo become human? and if you believe an embroyo is a human right after conception, does that mean I have to believe that to be fact too? why are your beliefs more important than mine? and why do you get to impose your beliefs on me? hypothetical questions, not refering to anyone here
    PRO CHOICE does not mean abortions for everyone! it means CHOICE! you decide. you and your mate decide. you and your mate and your doctor decide. GOVERNMENT has no RIGHT to be involved.

    okay, i have to go to court now, child support hearing will write more later.

    love
    harmony

    "Power doesn't mean you're acting like a man, or you're a bully or a bitch. It's that you don't let people step on you"
    -Sharon Monplaisir

  • Yerusalyim
    Yerusalyim

    Jan,

    You said,

    I suggest you post references
    , Why? You haven't. R v W is a legal document not a medical document. R v W is almost 30 years old, medical science has made some pretty huge leaps since then. But, if it will amuse you, I can look up the references for ya.

    Err on the side of caution means, caution that you might be destroying human life, that is the cautious, or conservative approach.

    Jan, where do you get the idea that PAIN and THOUGHT are related. Pain is generally a function of the lower brain even the brain stem.

    Jan, I am in no way favoring any limitations on sex, oral sex, anal sex, premarital sex, same gender sex, group sex, have all the sex you want, JUST BE RESPONSIBLE about it. One of the risks of Sex is pregnancy, so, take ALL precautions against that, or disease. To have abortion as a choice for those who make irresponsible choices about sex just encourages irresponsible sex.

    What you want is to control people's sexuality. It seems to be the core issue of Christianity
    now you're putting words in my mouth, I never said any such thing. Have sex if you want, but it comes with risks. Lets educate on sex, and teach abstinence as a viable option, but not the only option, condums, BCP which I am personally opposed to, but don't want to see go away.

    My concern is indeed for women, abortion victimizes women. An abortion pill victimizes women. But my biggest concern is for the baby, the human life, inside the womb. It has no voice. Only the drone of folks from NOW and Planned Parenthood seem to be heard in the debate. Why does PP oppose teaching abstinence as part of sex ed? Abstinence is the most reliable form of birth control there is.

    Responsible choices, Jan, involve assessing the risks and accepting the consequences. As a male, I assess the risk of getting a girl pregnant if we have sex. Is it worth it? Well, I'll wear a condom. Opps, the condom breaks. Do I encourage her to have an abortion? NOPE, the consequences of my action mean another life has come into existence. Instead, I support this girl, help her as best I can, and pay my child support. Abortion was never an option. My daughter from this circumstance will be 7 in August.

    If a woman has the right to abort a baby against the will of the father, should the father have the right to make her have an abortion if he doesn't want to be a dad? If not, should he have the right to not pay child support and disown the baby?

    YERUSALYIM
    "Vanity, it's my favorite sin."
    [Al Pacino as Satan, in "DEVIL'S ADVOCATE"]

  • JanH
    JanH

    Yeru,
    Re. references, you are the one who wants to make your opinion law. I don't. You have the burden of evidence.

    Jan, where do you get the idea that PAIN and THOUGHT are related. Pain is generally a function of the lower brain even the brain stem.

    Does an automatic fire alarm feel pain? It has censors that feels heat over a certain level, or who can "smell" smoke. This "feeling" is transmitted to an electronic unit who analyses the results, and then takes appropriate action. On the surface level, this seems to be pain. But it is not, because no thought is involved. It is basic stiumulus-response. If you can't think, then you cannot feel pain, simply because you cannot feel.

    JUST BE RESPONSIBLE about it. One of the risks of Sex is pregnancy, so, take ALL precautions against that, or disease. To have abortion as a choice for those who make irresponsible choices about sex just encourages irresponsible sex.

    Of course, nobody can reasonably disagree with the idea that it's good to be "responsible." But your last sentence just begs the question, namely whether abortions are necessarily ethically wrong. So does the whole rest of your message. You assume what you try to prove, and totally ignore all counter-arguments I and others have posted in this thread.

    I also have to say that your approach to sex sounds absolutely boring. And sex with a condom is a mildly entertaining form of simulated sex, IMO.

    Responsible choices, Jan, involve assessing the risks and accepting the consequences.
    Again, you just assume what you try to say. When a woman is pregnant, she can choose to give birth and bring up a child, or to have an abotion. Both choices have consequences. I simply do not accept that giving birth is always the right choice, in all circumstances. And I certainly do not accept the idea that you or your friends in the CC should dictate what is "responsible".
    If a woman has the right to abort a baby against the will of the father, should the father have the right to make her have an abortion if he doesn't want to be a dad?
    Of course not.
    If not, should he have the right to not pay child support and disown the baby?
    A difficult question, but a totally different one. It is irrelevant to the abortion debate. It is simply a question of economics.

    - Jan
    --
    Faith, n. Belief without evidence in what is told by one who speaks without knowledge, of things without parallel. [Ambrose Bierce, The Devil´s Dictionary, 1911]

  • JanH
    JanH

    Oh, Yeru, I forgot to address this totally outragous statement of yours:

    My concern is indeed for women, abortion victimizes women. An abortion pill victimizes women

    Don't you think the woman is better able to evaluate that than you, sitting in your comfy chair far away from her reality? Your "concern" is patronizing, assuming women are unable to make the correct choice, and needs you to tell them what to do, and you also want to punish those who act differently. So much for your concern.

    As the article Harmony posted explains very well, difficult access to abortion (thanks to the tactics of fundie fanatics) victimizes women. A ban on abortion victimizes women even more.

    How desperate do you think a woman has to be to stick her own abdomen with a pin to simulate a medical condition that justifies a legal abortion under the restrictive nightmare you conservatives wants to institute? The alternative to legal and available abortions in the real world is not no abortions, but dangerous illegal abortions.

    - Jan
    --
    Faith, n. Belief without evidence in what is told by one who speaks without knowledge, of things without parallel. [Ambrose Bierce, The Devil´s Dictionary, 1911]

  • open_mind
    open_mind

    JanH....

    How desperate do you think a woman has to be to stick her own abdomen with a pin to simulate a medical condition that justifies a legal abortion under the restrictive nightmare you conservatives wants to institute? The alternative to legal and available abortions in the real world is not no abortions, but dangerous illegal abortions

    Right on. That is one reason why I feel the effective action to minimizing abortions is not to make them illegal. If they become illegal, it seems more people will be hurt in the end, at least physically.

  • peaceloveharmony
    peaceloveharmony

    yeru's lastest post got me thinking. he said

    , JUST BE RESPONSIBLE about it. One of the risks of Sex is pregnancy, so, take ALL precautions against that, or disease. To have abortion as a choice for those who make irresponsible choices about sex just encourages irresponsible sex.

    i agree that if you choose to have sex then you must be RESPONSIBLE about it. and of course accidents happen, condoms break, the pill can fail. but does that mean that I should be forced into unwanted motherhood? does that mean that I have to forsake any dreams that i have? yes, i full well know the consequences of sex and that is why i make damn sure i take my pills on time, everyday. i don't want to get pregnant, i don't want to be a mother (not yet anyway) and i certainly don't want bring a child into that situation.....so i try to be as RESPONSIBLE as i can be. if i ever have to face the decision of what to do in the case of an unwanted pregnancy, i know that i will think long and hard about the consequences of whatever i decide. it will NOT be an easy decision. but it will be MY decision.

    the reason i brought the abortion issue up was to highlight that I and other like minded women DO NOT want the government to have any say in our reproductive decisions. abortion is a PERSONAL DECISION and not one to take lightly and not one to be mandated by old men in gov't. what do they know about me???? again, i ask, why do i have to believe the same thing you do? i am not asking pro-life supportors to go out and get an abortion or to even change their views on abortion but am asking that you allow me the right to make my own decision. just like you have the right to believe abortion is a sin or wrong or whatever. but you have no right to take away my right to a legal and safe abortion.

    jan,

    The alternative to legal and available abortions in the real world is not no abortions, but dangerous illegal abortions.

    echoing open_mind, right on!

    love
    harmony

    "Power doesn't mean you're acting like a man, or you're a bully or a bitch. It's that you don't let people step on you"
    -Sharon Monplaisir

  • mommy
    mommy

    Harmony,
    Hey girl Thanks for posting this article. I know that many women in our comunity has to travel to Atlanta Ga to get an abortion, a 6 hour round trip drive, and across state lines. The abortion clinic only an hour away, was shut down, by pressure from the christian coalition. Seems they could not swallow the fact that is is legal and after much pressure to the woman who went there, tauntings, physical abuse etc. The Clinic closed it's doors, making it even harder to get an aborton in a country where it is legal. [8>]

    Btw, go get them in court girl! hehe

    I totally agree with sex education lacking in this country. Recently our county hired a nurse to serve the school district. Why there was no nurse up until this point? Christians feared she would educate their children on sex education, and maybe even distribute condoms

    My aunt, I love her to death, knows her teenage girls are sexually active, but refused to take them for planned parnting, because she does not agree they should be having sex. Well, I may not agree either, but I think they should have a choice to have safe sex or unsafe sex. Pregnacy is but one side effect of protected sex. And perhaps the least painful.
    wendy

    Ps. We all could go around and around on this. But the most painful thing is that it is written. The law has been made. Why is it so hard to uphold it?

    Blind faith can justify anything~Richard Dawkins, The selfish gene

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