BB, good points. False guilt needs to be specifically addressed like you say... I just find it hard to not see a bigger picture.
I don't recall Jesus condemning acts of kindness at any time--even on the sabbath, where any work was traditionally forbidden. Jesus said that God has a strong preference for kindness over self-denial; also notice that Jesus called innocent the very ones the pharisees had condemned for picking grain:
Matt 12:7 If you had known what these words mean, `I desire mercy , not sacrifice ' you would not have condemned the innocent.
RO 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2 because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.
Hope these will help alleviate that false guilt, emma.
bebu