Crazy JW Sister

by sandy 12 Replies latest jw experiences

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  sandy

  My sister will not allow my nieces to go to the amusement park with me this weekend if my disfellowshipped niece (other sister's 20 yr. old daughter) comes along.

  My family is aware that I have my doubts and complaints against the org and that I am living in sin with my boyfriend, and they still talk to me. Not that I am complaining. I am grateful.

  But I had to stick up for my DF'ed niece today. I told my sister she was being hipocritical letting her kids be around me and not doing the same for our df'ed niece. I also pointed out that anytime they need a babysitter they do not hesitate to ask my niece. She blamed that on her husband. She kept saying (*%#*#* is DF'ed you are not.

  So I said:

  Just because no formal announcement has been made from the platform I may as well be df'ed. She said yeah but (%#*# knows the truth, she said she still believes it but she isn't proving it by going to meetings. You, its like you are DA'ed, you don't believe its the truth anymore.

  Did I miss something here??? Shouldn't she be shunning me if she considers me DA'ed? I didn'y say anything to that.

  I don't know why I was fighting her arguement for her. The last thing I want is her keeping my nioeces from me. She promised she wouldn't but I am sure after a talk with Elder Righteous she will limit their association with me as well.
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  hubert

  Well, Sandy, They are all hipocrytes, as we all now. I'm glad you stuck up for your niece. That was the right thing to do. (((Sandy)))

  Hubert
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  Triple A

  I agree with Hubert, you do the right thing sticking up for your niece. I hope she appreciates the love you have shown. Of course she may never know what you have done.
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  sandy

  Thanks,

  I was afraid to speak up at first out of fear of her keeping my nieces from me. But I know I'll still get to see them even if it is only to babysit them. When it comes to situations like this you take what you can get.
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  crinklestein

  It's only because there hasn't been any official declaration of your DF'ing. Their actions are SOOO guided by the judgements of the elders and as long as they say you haven't been DF'd then you are still ok to hang out with. Fucking idiots.
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  willyloman

  Further proof that the average dub has no "bible-based conscience" but simply goes along with whatever the man made rules are. It exposes the Big Lie (one of many) in the WT organization: That dubs come by their convictions after serious bible study and soul searching. But in fact, they look to their leaders for guidelines and then determine what they can get away with. Often this is based on social convenience more than anything else.
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  Sassy

  It doesn't make sense does it? She is using the fact that you are not 'officially' out to allow you to be with your niece it sounds like. Where as with your other niece, she is officially dfd, so the rules are more cut and dry.. for her conscience..
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  Redneckgurl

  When we DA's ourselves, my mother called and said "why did you have to do that to us??" She knew we were celebrating holidays, and not going to meetings, I even expressed to her that I thought it was a cult, but something about that "announcement" made it all official I guess.

  My brother called me and said "Kris, if you just stopped going to meetings you could do whatever you want, but you didn't have to write that letter" ????? Hello?? I thought the same thing, Am I missing something?

  They can't even see how nuts that is! I could see it before though, couldn't understand why family members talked to those who were doing wrong things, but then stopped talking to them when their announcement was made. Maybe that's because I knew a long time ago that this wasn't the truth, I don't know. Maybe I was never completely blinded? It's just like talking to a wall, I swear. No sense at all.

  --redneckgurl (Krissy)
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  Doubtfully Yours

  Well said, Hubert!

  DY
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  sandy

  I heard through the grapevine (my df'ed niece) that my sister said, that she said, that he said...... j/k

  Anyways, my sister feels I made a good point about my own situation "maybe her kids shouldn't be around me too much as well." I heard this not through my sister but my niece.

  Well, it turns out they are still going to allow them to go with me as long as my df'ed niece doesn't go. Freakin Idiots!!! But I still want to take my nieces so I have to put up with it. I taking advantage of the time I can spend with them because after the elders reads my grievance letter I am sure to be formally df'ed.

  I hope you do not think I am complaining here about my situation. I really feel for those of you that have lost your families completely because of the org.

  I am lucky that my parents are in active and my siblings (though they think they are strong) are half-ass jws. They compromise their principles at the drop of a hat.