death of a friends child; funeral obligation (page 2)

Joyzabel

((((Franklin J & Ms. FJ)))))

I'm so sorry. You are right there is nothing to say but just be there for them, no matter how hard it is.

Hugs,

Joy

whyamihere

I also feel horrible for your friends....Life is so precious...and yet to quick in some cases. Its not fair that a beautiful chid has been taken.

There is no words...no cliche if you will at this moment that anyone can give to comfort those who are at a loss.

However being there and giving yourself as support is the only thing I can think of that they need.

Brooke WI

minimus

Frank, please know you and your wife are in our prayers. That's a TERRIBLE accident, esp. around this time of year.I'm sure your presence will be a comfort to them and all those that knew this child.

Being from a large family and my ex-husband has a large family, We personally lost a baby and my sis-n-law lost a baby boy. Different from this tragedy of course. The thing that 'hurt' the worse, was for people to avoid us or act like 'nothing' was wrong. You may feel inadequate but the parents will appreciate it in time having understanding folks near them. I am sorry for you and them.

Dorothy

codeblue

(((Franklin J )))

So sorry to hear about the accident....it is indeed a very sad thing for a child to die...

You and your wife are doing the "right thing"...you are being very supportive....and giving with the food and drink. I am sure your kindness will be greatly appreciated.

many hugs,

CodeBlue

gypsywildone

(((Franklin)))

We recently had to go to the funeral of a 21 year old we had known for years. We also kept sending food to his family, because everyone is numb & not really seeing to their own needs. We also typed up a paper called "Memories of Nick", about when we first met him, some really funny stories about him & remembering his car & fashon fixation, etc. We gave this to the parents at the dinner after the funeral & at some point they went outside & read it & returned smiling, but with tears in their eyes & said it was something they'd keep & treasure.

I also had gone to a flower shop (wwwRoyers.com on the web) & looked at all kinds of flowers, but settled on something under "novelties", it was a black metal Hot Rod car with flames, full of flowers, because that was THE essence of Nick. I signed the card from 4 of his closets friends from way back. I didn't know if this was a stupid thing to do or not, but they buried it with him.

What was the poor little thing into? Flower shops can do really well with these things if they have something to go on.

We plan to rteach out to the parents & try to be friends because they really want to talk about Nick & remember him, & they are kind of alone. Especially the mother.

Good luck! I have recently been there & I hope I never have to go back. The death of a child or really young person is so very hard.

hubert

So sorry to hear that, Franklin. My condolances to you and the childs parents. Good of you to be there for them.

Hubert

BrendaCloutier

The death of a child, no matter what age, has got to be the worst thing for a parent.

Being there. Showing up. Letting them know you're sorry for their loss. That's about as much as anyone can do. No matter how uncomfortable it is, it's much better to address the loss and be available than to ignore it.

Franklin, I feel for your loss in this, too. Take care, many hugs.

Brenda.

Billygoat

I won't be so arrogant as to give advice of what to say to comfort your friends. I've never been in that situation and hopefully never will be - I have no idea what would make them feel better. All I can say is that I'm sure just listening and hugging would be gifts they will always cherish.

God be with them.

Andi

BluesBrother

This is terrible , but I am sure the parents will appreciate so much your care and your presence.

death of a friends child; funeral obligation