It feels like my first Christmas!

by Sassy 13 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    Many of you have read my posts this past year and know I've felt somehow disapointed in the holidays. The idea of the magical euphoroic feeling I expected always seemed to be missing. The last thread I wrote on holidays, many of you gave me a lot of food for thought regarding the holidays becoming more real when I start creating my own traditions, so they become special to me. That was a revelation to me. I remember once I stood in line to get an autograph with a band once. By the time I got to the band, I was so nervous that I was opening pages of the concert book I had purchased for signatures and ran through the band members so fast I didn't know what I was doing.. until one of the last ones put his hand out to me and said STOP.. it was like water in my face.. then he said HI. and smiled. he brought the reality of the moment back to me. I was going through the motions of getting the signatures but not stopping long enough to enjoy the moment. He saw that. Well the holidays have been kind of like that for me. I've tried to celebrate them, but I don't think I took the time to really stop and think, reflect, enjoy and yes, create my own special traditions.. and it took the comments in that thread and privately as well, for me to get that "STOP" and think about it.. relect.. give myself time to enjoy.

    This year for Christmas has already been special, even though it is far from over for me. But I have enjoyed adding special ornaments to the tree and new decorations for the house. Last year it was so costly getting just set up, that I couldn't get the 'special things'.. so this year was sooooo much fun. Plus I had a Christmas party both for my work and my boyfriends, not to mention other Christmas parties we received invites to.. (sadly we had to miss a couple). I've been rolling through the holiday slower this year.. and enjoying it. Thinking about the things that I remember my dad's family doing, that I want to repeat, so as to create my own traditions.........making it all more special..

    and most of all.. the best part is flying home tomorrow morning to celebrate for the first time ever with my dad and brother and sister. I am sooooooooooooo excited to go home and share this with them. Finally Christmas feels real to me...

  • morty
    morty

    CONGRATS GIRLY!!!

    I am sooooo happy for you...enjoy the moment....

    Have a safe trip, and Merry Christmas hon....Love Ya!!!

  • FMZ
    FMZ

    Simply beautiful, Sassy.

    Sit back, relax, and enjoy Christmas how it is supposed to be enjoyed... spending time with family.

    (((((((((Sassy)))))))))

    FMZ

  • seeitallclearlynow
    seeitallclearlynow

    That sounds great Sassy! I'm happy you get to spend this Christmas with your dad and brother and sister!

    Happy Holidays to you!

  • Swan
    Swan

    Sassy! That's wonderful!

    Have a very Merry Christmas!

    Tammy

  • Country_Woman
    Country_Woman

    You've got the Christmas Spirit then...

    Enjoy Sassy

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    Thanks everyone! I have just been loving the holidays this year. I can't believe they finally feel real Doing this with my very own family means so much to me!! Christmas at my dads was wonderful!! I flew with a suitcase fulll of presents.... thankfully my luggage and I did not get seperated, as I arrived in Wintery Minnesota on the 25th! I did get news though... that upset me. You see when we were young my mom used to go with dad and us kids to the famiy Christmas Eve for food and presents. It was the only time that the whole family got together. Well mom, being a JW hated it... one year dad sat us kids down at the kitchen table and asked us if we believed in Christmas. Well of course we had been taught by mom it was wrong and so me being the oldest, said NO. My dad cried. I will never forget that. We never were brought to the family for the holidays on Christmas eve again. I have carried that burdon with me for thinking the blame was on me that we never went again. But I learned this week it wasn't me at all. My mother had lied to my dad and said that she wasn't going again and that he could pick us kids up at the house at 5:30. But instead she took us kids to this elders house and hung out/hid there. My sister asked her when dad was taking us to the family and mom told her that he would pick us up there which was a lie. I can't believe that she hid us away from him... and she also knows that I blamed myself for taking away the family from my brother and sister all these years... but it wasn't me at all. It was her deceptiveness and lies. I can't believe it!!

  • Insomniac
    Insomniac

    Darlin Sassy, I'm so sorry- for you, me, and everybody- who had childhoods without Christmases, and who had to deal with all the b.s. associated with having non-witness loved ones; I'm currently trying to forge a closer relationship with my aunty, with whom I haven't talked much for most of my life, as she's a Catholic, and a nun. It's so cool that you got to have Christmas with your dad!

    I LOVED the Christmas card you sent me- y'all are a cute couple! However, as I've said before, I'd still card you before selling you any liquor, you look about 20 yrs old in all your pics!

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    lol... my sister took me to their 'bar' and everyone kept saying 'this is your sister?' an bad girl sassy kept saying .. yeah I am her younger sister!!!! ( I am not... she is the baby) I am glad you are getting to kmow your aunt Insom!!!

  • maybesbabies
    maybesbabies

    Hey Sassers!!! I am so happy for you!! (((((hugs)))) Even though I have a sister who is "on the fence", she had Christmas with my neices, and it gave me so much joy to send them presents!!! Christmas isn't about Christ or Santa or whatever, it's about family, and I am so glad you got to spend it with them!!! *muah*

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