If your partner is of any redeeming moral character and quality, and it appears that he must be, as most men would jump at the chance to de-flower a true virgin without even a thought, much less a second thought, well she could surely leave herself open to be plucked by someone of a lot less.
the idea that 'most men' would jump at this chance is absurd....i know for me and several of the females i have known, we had to practically beg a guy to be our first....they have it in their mind that the girl will fall in love and want to settle down, blahblahblah....in my case, it was the opposite; the guy wanted to settle down and move in after i thanked him kindly for taking care of my 'little problem'...
anyways, some fine points have been made about the 'sanctity of virginity'...i don't think it is that big of a deal anymore..or it shouldn't be...sex is not love...and love is not needed for tremendously good sex...sure, it helps, but for getting one's virginity out of the way? no...
as sixy so perfectly put it..."I'd much rather be the "first good lover" than just "the first" anyday."