by eljefe 34 Replies latest jw friends
Justin:
Mormon dudes get to have like 20 wives. But then they usually treat them like crap. If I could have 20 wives I'd be nice to them. I'd be the best Mormon husband dude ever! I don't know about the whole sex to procreate thing though. That seems pretty lame. But you could get snipped, not tell anyone and then have 20 wives. Now that would be cool!
It's not too late... I think you could join if you really want to..!! (how can I get a winking smiley in here??) -Aude.
I think you'd be surprised that most of us worldly people know very little about JW's. Before my family got in, all I knew about was the Blood refusal, and no holidays. It wasn't til I got into the internet sites that I found out about the shunning, the rules about facial hair, DAing, DFing, etc...I think you would find that most people like me don't know much and would probably just shrug it off. I would definitely tell my friends that I'm glad to not be a part of it anymore (assuming that's the case)...and if they want to know why, I'd tell them the negatives. The world needs to hear.
Similiar thread...
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/82295/1.ashx
Can't believe this thread was only 2 weeks ago...
Last week I overheard a discussion at work amongst 5 people near my cubicle talking about Jehovah's witnesses. 'Family members that were...' 'George's uncle is...' 'Someone came to my door...' 'Are they they one's that believe...' 'Oh yeah Why do they do that??...'
A long-ish conversation. I strained to hear more stood up and got closer
No way was I going to tell them all at once. There was no JW-bashing, though.
The next day, I walked out with the person that sort of started the conversation. I had known for about a year that he grew up not celebrating birthday's and holidays seemed bitter about it, too So I asked him in private if he was a raised a JW? "NO!!" said a couple of other things i forget what I responded that the conversation from previous day about JWs made me think that he had been. And the reason I cared to ask was that I was raised one. He was genuinely interested. Didn't dampen our relationship at all. It was a positive experience for me.
Totally different experience from 4years ago. A guy I had been dating for about 3 months and was just starting to get serious. We had made a few plans to do all sorts of fun stuff spanning over the next 6months. Chatting on the phone one evening laughing and telling stories he made some comment about priests and ministers and them getting paid for their services. I said "Well, not all get paid." "Oh yes. All of them do." "No. I have known quite quite a few that have regular jobs to supply income but their ministerial and pastering is completely unpaid... Jehovah's Witness do not pay their ministers at all." "Are you sure? How do you know that??" "I used to be one. In fact, that is the reason why I have almost no contact with my mother and sister." (It really, really bothered him that I wasn't close to my mom.)
He was silent for a long pause. "You still there?" I asked.
He dumped me on the spot with these words: "All plans that we talked about... - Cancelled"
"Huh?? Why? Because I USED to be one?? That's crazy. I was raised one. Am not now. Haven't been for over 10years. You and I AGREE on the dangers of that religion. We AGREE!!! Why is this a problem?"
He would not discuss. "It's over. Done. Cancel everything." <click>
About 3 weeks later, he left me a message: "...Religious background doesn't matter. It's not important. I was wrong. Call me."
I never did.
But I also haven't told anyone else until you guys and then my workmate last week.
Thank you all for not dumping me!!!!! <need that winky smiley again..>
-Aude.
He would not discuss. "It's over. Done. Cancel everything."
Ouch, that is what I am afraid will happen. I can only hope for the best.
Yes and no. I don't go around telling everyone I meet, but I do tell my closest friends. I also tell them I'm DFd. Nobody really seems to care except to be happy I'm out now. DFd at 17 I really was still a kid while being a JW. I only got baptised when I reached13 yrs of age because it was expected of me and I felt a great need to make others happy to feel like I belonged. I never really understood that much, except that it all scared me. I just memorized the answers the questions and the scriptures to support the answers.
well since I was never baptized, I tell them it's my parent's religion! Because it really, truly is!
yeah, it helps explain many aspects of my personality that if i didn't say i was raised a jw, there would be no explanation for.
All of my close friends know They asked a lot of questions at first but its calmed down now and they understand why i didnt come to xmas parties and stuff.
plus now i dont have to act all wierd around them
Released
Friends yes, but have you ever started telling someone you just met and then wish you didin't!?
I did at the Apostafest in Scotland.
Me Littletoe and Gadgets cousin went out for drink on the Saturday night, to sample some of Edinburgh night life. Anyway we got talking to two guys and for some reason I tried to explain how we knew each other and why we were there. Half way through trying to compete with the loud Gig that was playing, I saw the wierd look on their faces, I felt like saying to LT that I was in need of a visit to the bathroom and then let him take over!!!
Qwerty
Of course ! Workmates that is , afraid I have not developed social friendships , being now in a "Divided household", I spend my spare time here.
Workmates are fine. They knew me as a witness and coped with me when I used to try to witness to them . Now I find it so easy to say that that I have discovered the truth about it and it is all baloney. They are shocked when I say how I do not wish to lose association with family and cause a "Restricted association" with my wife, by being discovered as an "Apostate"
A little anti-witnessing is Oh so sweet
